Comfort Is Overrated

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The warning signs at the edges of our comfort zone tell us to stop, go back, stay safe. Our comfort zone will even make up seemingly valid justifications for staying in the zone. Of course, to do something we’ve never done, we have to leave our comfort zone. But first we must catch our justifications. […]

A New Year’s Dialogue

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Stuff happens because we act. (Easy.) Different actions cause different stuff to happen. (Also easy.) Our thoughts (which we may notice variously as our ideas, beliefs, values, moods, emotions, perspectives, or attitudes) determine which actions we choose. (Makes sense.) Other people react to our thoughts and affect our results, too, even if we haven’t verbalized those thoughts. […]

It’s a Protection Scheme

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Most of what we need, want, or desire can be accomplished by building a new habit. But our old habits come with a protection scheme. Any attempt to interrupt an old habit triggers its protection scheme and makes us feel bad or even unsafe. These schemes make replacing an old habit so uncomfortable that we […]

What Got You Here Can’t Get You There

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Each phase of a company’s growth demands a leadership approach that is significantly different from the prior phase. When we see a company struggle, we can bet that its leadership approach hasn’t shifted to what’s currently needed. Yet we, as leaders, resist changing our approach for the very fact that it has been successful so far! Deep within […]

Habits That No Longer Work

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Many of our habits come from decisions we made as children. These decisions might include being shy or outgoing or being passive or forceful. They may also include notions of who we are and how the world is. These decisions made sense and made our young lives better, easier. But we often outgrow these habits. […]

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Vigilant Buzz Raising

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Wherever we continue to struggle with something, we will find a long history of our bad-feeling thinking about that something. This thinking will often be habitual; we would hardly notice we are thinking it. And we may even think it’s normal to have these bad-feeling thoughts about this issue. Bad feelings tell us we are […]

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The Real Hard Work

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I feel good. – James Brown Learning to feel good–to raise our buzz–is vitally important to becoming more successful. Many complain that feeling good is such hard work. But so is feeling bad. Both take energy, time, and attention. It’s just that, for most of us, feeling bad seems easier. That’s because we’ve learned to habitually choose […]

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When Our Habits Go Rogue

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We are all blessed with the ability to form habits. Our habits keep us safe (we look both ways before crossing the street) and help us do complex things with ease (if we had to think about how to drive a car, we’d crash every day). Of course, we can have bad habits. Bad habits […]