Rule of Thumb

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Here’s a helpful rule of thumb: head towards fear, discomfort, or tension. Not to abuse yourself (“gotta take my lumps, must work hard”), not to assert your will over anything (how silly), but to get the gift. There is always a gift hiding in there. And the gift makes things easier. In your corner, Michael

Lack of Progress?

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Lack of progress anywhere at work and in life feels bad not because there’s something broken but because we fear we can’t keep up or handle it. But we can.   In your corner, Mike PS: No, it’s not those other people’s actions or attitudes. It’s us, the leaders. PPS: If we pause for a […]

At Moments Like These

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Complaining about, fearing, or fighting something that we don’t like is the painful, slow way. Such focus only strengthens it. Focusing on what we do like is similar. The more attention we give, the more it will grow. As counterintuitive as it seems, our best way is to leave alone what we don’t like, to refuse to give […]

Are You Tapping the Fear or the Spark?

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There is a fear within each of us. Tap it and you’ll get hurried, harried, and short-lived results. Further attempts to mine this source become ever more costly, unpredictable, and ultimately doomed. There is a spark within each of us. Tap it and you’ll get long-lasting, wonderful results. Of course, mining sparks is not a […]

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Quivering Demon

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The sages tell us there are only two emotions: love and fear. What is not one is the other. This is useful because we know that fear feels bad. It distracts, detracts, and debilitates. And it is mostly self-generated and sustained. Anything that feels bad has its roots in plain old fear. The way out […]

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Good Leadership, Wise Business

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The sages tell us that there are only two reactions to anything: fear or love. Nothing else. So if we catch ourselves feeling bad or trying to attack, avoid, complain, or criticize anything, we are in fear. The solution to whatever we fear is to love it. This does not mean we should accept something […]

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Proper Use of Planning

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Planning fails when we use it to control the future. Seeking to control the future comes from a distrust or fear about it. And it can’t be done. Planning works when we use it to prepare for the future. Anticipating a desired future with quiet excitement and taking sensible preceding steps are great ways to […]