How To Stop Creating Stress
We create our own stress. This is much more than an old self-help chestnut. It is a vitally important insight. Once we get this, we …
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Quieting Your Should Engine
One very good way to quiet our Should Engine is to make choices about who we are (or want to be) and what we want. …
Our Should Engine and Our Freedom Engine
It’s like we have two engines inside us: our Should Engine and our Freedom Engine. Both mostly operate without us being aware of them. Our Should Engine pumps …
The General
The General is our internalized voice of external authority that tells us what to do. It “shoulds” all over us with edicts like, “You should …
Clearing the Three Roadblocks to Work-Life Balance
Here are three work-life balance roadblocks and ways to clear them: We see “work” as something we struggle through. We see the grind, the guilt …
No Shoulds
Catch yourself when, in making a decision, you say, “I should,” “I ought to,” or “I have to.” Even if we seem to be the …
What To Do When You Just Can’t Get Organized
Sometimes, no amount of tools, tricks, habits or systems are enough to get us and keep us sane and organized. When that’s the case, the …