One very good way to quiet our Should Engine is to make choices about who we are (or want to be) and what we want.
Take a typical morning clean-up routine, for example. We can hear our Should Engine barking that we should make the bed, empty the dishwasher, put away the breakfast thibgs, and clean the counters. And we feel drained from its battle with our Freedom Engine.
To quiet both engines, we can declare to ourselves with some amount of excitement, “I choose to have a (mostly) neat house. I am someone who lives in calm, clean spaces.”
This approach overrides and shuts down the war between our Should and Freedom Engines. It satisfies them both. It works even if what we declare doesn’t yet match reality. Having made such declarations to ourselves, we will happily and easily do whatever is needed to fulfill our choices.
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