Jellyfish or Jackhammer?
We can act in response to what we think are other people’s judgments of us. (Yuck.) Or we can act according to what we want. …
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Nothing and No One Needs Fixing
Where our inner game is off, it normally comes from us nursing a belief about them, us, or the situation being fundamentally broken. These harsh …
When We Remember
When we remember that we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands explained. – Mark Twain And when we remember that we are …
Door Number 2
Even if we do it behind their backs, people can tell when we have judged, criticized, or found fault in them. They will inevitably react. …
How to Lead When Things Go Wrong
When things go wrong (and when they keep going wrong), our temptation is to judge the people involved as underperforming nogoodniks. (We occasionally will use …
A Small Journey to the Source of People Problems
Let’s take a small journey then come back home. Most problems at work are people problems. People problems mostly come from our tendency to judge each …
Not Like Us
It seems that we instantly and all day long judge others as one of us or not one of us. We may judge on skin …
It Does Take Two to Tango
Because, as leaders, we enter many relationships, we often find ourselves bothered by and reacting to other people’s actions. Whenever and with whomever we repeatedly feel …
Why We Cannot Afford to Judge
As leaders (with or without title), influencers, and sales people, we cannot afford to judge others. Not at all. To judge another, we necessarily pretend …
Other People Know How We Feel About Them
In a way, we can say that we are all psychic. We can usually read each other’s emotions quite accurately. We may not believe this. …