Expect It to Go Well
If we expect that meeting or this interaction to go poorly, it will. If we are even concerned a bit, our results will fall short …
Mindset
An open, calm, confident mindset. Plugged in, mostly. Opting for feel good, then act instead of get into action to shut down bad feelings.
Nothing To Prove
Deeply woven into our global culture is a belief that we each need to prove ourselves, pay dues, and try to make up for some fundamental …
This Week Made Simple
As we begin our week, let’s remember that we need not get everything done. We don’t even need to get most things done. All that’s …
Accept and Pivot
One way of navigating a problem is to say, “If only…” If only that person would change. If only this situation would be different. If …
Exclusion Principles
Physicist Wolfgang Pauli taught us that two of the exact same types of bits of matter cannot occupy the same space at the same time. We …
Tilting the Balance Towards Change
We change when the benefits minus the pains of changing are greater than the benefits minus the pains of not changing. Not because someone said …
We Don’t Know (and We’re Okay With That)
We want to be seen and to see ourselves as competent. So we are tempted to become some form of The Expert at work. Defensively, …
One Step at a Time
We handle some unfamiliar things with grace. It doesn’t matter that we’ve never been to, say, Amsterdam. We trust that there will be unfamiliar challenges like …
Don’t Try to Understand Why When You Feel Bad
Feeling bad detracts from our productivity and enjoyment of work and home life. We don’t think as well. We make bad assumptions and decisions. Tempting …
Responsible for Everything
Some useful thoughts are easily misconstrued into something quite controversial. Take, for instance, this statement: We are completely responsible for everything that happens to us. At first …