The more you concentrate on what’s wrong, the more you encourage what’s wrong to put its feet up and stay.
If you insist on saying, “the reality is,” and then explaining why things aren’t working, I am afraid you will only ever get that reality you don’t want.
Why not switch things up and start describing the reality you want to see?
In your corner,
PS: Triple word score and a daily double if you also let yourself feel now what it will feel like when you have the reality you want.
PS: I now expect to some cheers, whoops, and hollers coming from your direction pretty soon.