Working more hours yet have less time to get our work done. On calls, Zoom, or Teams all day. Rear end feels welded to the chair. These are some of the symptoms we experience when we (suddenly) shift to remote work. Here are four cures. Meet LESS Often When we are together, we communicate more […]
…or you and them or us and them. No. The problem is always over there, on the table in front of us. And you and I and we and they are the ones to solve it. In your corner, Mike PS: We can tell we’ve brought the problem between us because of the ensuing drama. PPS: And […]
Most of the conflicts we see in the news and in our businesses are silly and wasteful. Stuck in our positions, we snipe, grouse, and power-struggle. No solutions (especially those belonging to others) are good enough. We can easily lose faith in our ability to make progress. This and all conflict melts away when we […]
Other people’s perspectives can either open new possibilities or merely add confusion. Mostly, we get to choose which it will be. And they get to choose how long they will remain engaged and keep contributing. In your corner, Mike PS: And if we all remain open enough, we can listen more deeply, unearth stuck-but-silly […]
For the most part, we can all agree about the symptoms of a problem (say, the volume of traffic at rush hour or a spike in complaints from our clients). With some coaxing, we can all agree about the pain the problem causes. But it’s too easy to be (actively or passively) at each others’ throats when we discuss why […]
The fundamental challenge for any team of two or more people is trust. When there is lack of trust, issues about who does what, who has the ideas, who sets the agenda, and who gets credit bloom into conflict, politics, and poor results. To build trust in a team, we start with ourselves. We choose to […]
We can answer the following questions both when we sell something to our clients and when we seek better collaboration with others inside our organization. What do they care about, really? What do they struggle with now? What do they want? What have they tried and why hasn’t that worked? What will be true for them […]
We are here, we need to be there, and we need to take these steps to get there. It’s the straight line, the shortest distance. Yet other people not only can’t see it, they get in the way. They don’t do their part. They engage in politics, passive or aggressive resistance, and interference. Why can’t they see it? Why […]
Most meetings serve two distinct functions: to track and to choose. These functions don’t mix well. In a tracking meeting, we check progress, coordinate with each other, and hold ourselves accountable for selected chunks of work. Tracking meetings are shorter and more frequent. They range from a daily, 5-minute, stand up scrum to a biweekly […]
Being right is awful. How can it be that we are so sure we are right and yet everyone argues with, fights, or ignores us? It’s because we really want to be right. Which means that we want them to either be wrong or capitulate. That’s win-lose. They can feel it and they will resist […]