Most of the conflicts we see in the news and in our businesses are silly and wasteful. Stuck in our positions, we snipe, grouse, and power-struggle. No solutions (especially those belonging to others) are good enough. We can easily lose faith in our ability to make progress.
This and all conflict melts away when we stop pushing for what what we want and start talking about why we want it. At this level, we tap our shared values and humanity; we open doors to trust. Then the really good solutions–ones invisible while we were stuck in our positions–finally appear.
In your corner,
PS: I write this because I value effectiveness and think we are better off working together. What about you?