Others, when they are down, can take you into their tailspin. You will know you are heading down with them because you will feel bad and be in complaint mode.
You can help yourself and help them by refusing to go along. Instead of focusing on the fact that they are down or what they are down about, try this approach:
- Focus on the desired outcome.
- Trust it will all work out.
- Believe in them more than they believe in themselves.
- Express your faith that they will see it through successfully.
Coach them through it: “This is going to work out. Let’s talk about your next steps.”
This approach an uncanny way of working out well.
In your corner,
PS: Yes, you will have to focus, trust, believe, and express without data or evidence. And without faking it. It’s not hard, remember. It’s just not our usual habit. Give it a shot.