When a problem persists even if you seem to have tried everything, the temptation is to blame others, self, the world. It is far more productive to frame the problem in terms of buzz. Einstein said it well:
“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”
The solutions you seek simply are not available at the level you buzz at when you focus on the problem. Raise your buzz (by focusing on thoughts that feel better) and the solutions will appear. They will come with such ease that you’ll wonder what all that struggle was for.
In your corner,
PS: It sounds crazy, I know. But, c’mon. It can’t hurt and will very likely help.