Next time you catch yourself complaining about others, recall that we are the only ones who can affect and select our buzz. Others may send us down habitual rat holes, but we have to let them.
In your corner,
PS: Yes, this approach requires us to be quite mature. The good news is that maturity always ends up working out really well for us.
PPS: Maturity sometimes looks like choosing not to play rather than tripping into a win-lose or lose-win trap.