At Moments Like These
Complaining about, fearing, or fighting something that we don’t like is the painful, slow way. Such focus only strengthens it. Focusing on what we do like is …
Mindset
An open, calm, confident mindset. Plugged in, mostly. Opting for feel good, then act instead of get into action to shut down bad feelings.
Swim With
A man I met at a swim meet recently told me something enlightening. Whenever growing swimmers plateau in their performance–unable to go faster in race …
Start Anywhere Else
Here’s the thing about trying to raise our buzz, trying to feel good so that we can perform better: it can be hard, damn hard, …
A New Year’s Dialogue
Stuff happens because we act. (Easy.) Different actions cause different stuff to happen. (Also easy.) Our thoughts (which we may notice variously as our ideas, beliefs, values, …
Why You Need to Heed The Signal
We’ve grown up thinking that feeling bad means that there is something wrong with us, them, or the situation and that this something wrong needs to …
Definite, Compelling, and Grand
If we focus on something we don’t like (especially if we go on about what’s wrong with it and why we don’t like it) then …
Choose the Story
The story we tell drives our results. Tell a story of how rough it is, how terrible they are, how blah blah blah and our …
Swayed By Reality
The sages tell us that the formula for creating any outcome is belief->actions->results. This is a leverage formula. We leverage action into results because we …
It’s a Protection Scheme
Most of what we need, want, or desire can be accomplished by building a new habit. But our old habits come with a protection scheme. …
How Vulnerable Are You?
Vulnerability, intimacy, caring, and emotional risk. Mostly we’ve learned to avoid these at work. But, adopted with care, these become our power tools. They build …