Don’t Look Back

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The sages tell us that all our power is in the present. Any time we spend regretting, blaming, or trying to figure out stuff in the past will more likely distract us than help us. Don’t worry about repeating mistakes. We’ve already learned what we could.

Set it aside. The future’s calling.


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Struggling with Something? C’mon Back

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Struggle means getting caught in a do-have loop.

Whenever we are struggling with a problem, we are most assuredly doing things over and over in an effort to have the results we think we want.

“I’ll do this in order to have that. Oh, that didn’t work? I’ll do this other thing to have that other thing. Then I’ll do a little of that and have a little of this. Do this, have that. No? How about Do that, have this? Do-have, do-have, do-have…”

To exit the loop, we need to take a step back. Yes, because taking a break helps. And, pulling back, we see another place to start: be. How will we choose to be in order to open things up, feel good, and succeed with ease? We can raise our buzz, ask ourselves that question, and trust the answers we give.

Normally, the answers will include one or more of, “I choose to be calmer,” “I choose to raise my buzz,” “I choose to be confident,” “I choose to be that person who I most admire,” and “I choose to be caring.”

Once we’ve chosen a new, good-feeling be, we will see and be inspired to try a new do. And what we want to have will come with much more ease.

This sort of step back is one we will take again and again because it feels good and works well.

C’mon back!


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We Do Not Need More “Do”

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We and our organizations are so often in a rut of doing. Do, do, do. Yes, people tell us we need to slow down, to delegate, to relax, and to create some balance. But when all we have is a hammer, we make everything seem like a nail. Our hammer–our seeming only tool–is called Do. Do, do, do. We wonder things like, “OK. What do I need to Do to relax and slow down?”

What we need is not more Do. We need more tools in out toolkit. Three others, in fact, would make all the difference. They are, What, We, and Can.

Use the What tool to set a clear, compelling, and commonly understood goal. This is the tool of reflection and strategy.

Knowing we can’t do anything meaningful without other people, the We tool helps us attract and work win-win with all who matter. This is the tool of collaboration and partnership.

The Can tool helps us set our minds away from thoughts that hinder and toward thoughts help. Our thoughts are much more powerful than any amount of Do. This is the tool of strong “inner games” and quiet confidence.

With these tools in place, Do finally does relax and becomes the tool of flow and easy accomplishment. And that is my wish for you.


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Nobody says “Do successful”

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“The trick to being successful is to be successful.” Nobody ever says, “Do successful.” Yet most of the time we think, “If I do this, that, and the other thing and then I’ll be successful.”

“Do” so rarely leads to “be.” Starting with the “doing” is like taking the looooooooooooooooooooong way ’round the mountain.

Instead, take the shortcut: use tools like the flip, the ladder, telling yourself a different lie, the keep-or-toss, focus on the good stuff, and this is me to be successful, to create success in your mind first. You will then be inspired and do wonderful, successful things.


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PS: Remember: we are human beings not human doings.


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