The Danger of Focusing on What’s Wrong

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Just look at everything we have to do.

-Every leader

Though there is so much to do, fix, and improve (and we will never, ever be done), we can focus too much on what’s wrong. Then we and those around us will feel bad (resistant) and everything will be much harder to accomplish.

The cure? Focus on and give praise for (1) the vast majority of things that are going right and (2) how much better things will be with each fix or improvement. Then the doing, fixing, and improving will feel good and go swimmingly well.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Great Results

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Great results occur when we finally see that our real work is to focus on what we want, feel good about what we want showing up even before it gets here [and not caring how it happens], engaging all who matter in win-win, and taking action based on our inspiration.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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Leading When Beliefs Go Rogue

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Labels, judgments, yeah buts, and other beliefs about the way things are can help but often stop helping us. They go rogue.

We can tell that a belief has gone rogue on us in two ways. First, we feel bad when we think it. We often attribute the bad feeling to whatever we’re considering. “I feel bad because she’s this way, he’s that way, I’m this way, and things are going badly the other way.” But it’s really a signal from the wiser parts of us warning that we’re thinking about things in a less than helpful way. Second, we aren’t getting the results we want.

Our hard work as leaders is not in making things happen or getting people to do good stuff. It’s in tuning our thinking–especially long-held but rogue beliefs–to what feels better.  And this makes way for people to do good stuff and for good things to happen.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Yes, you are that powerful, dear leader.

 

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Fall in Love with Your Vision

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So used to expecting things not to work out, we limit our vision of what think we or our businesses can achieve. Or, perhaps, we allow our vision to be swamped by “yeah buts” (thoughts of fear, uncertainty, doubt, worry, anger, regret, or guilt).

Damn.

What if, instead, we loved our vision? Imagine what would happen if we spent more moments thinking about how exciting, satisfying, and fulfilling our visions are.

My guess: the results would dramatically contrast what we’re used to seeing from our old “yeah but” thinking.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Who’s Listening?

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You know that narrator in your head? It’s the voice that seems to put all the thoughts into words.

Pause, please, and consider. When that narrator speaks, who is listening? Hint: it’s not the narrator.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: If the realization of who is listening hasn’t fairly well blown your mind, go back and try again.

PPS: When you see it, this perspective provides clarity and power. Meditation fosters more regular contact with this perspective.

PPPS: A bit esoteric today? Perhaps. Keep looking for the perspective, nonetheless.

 

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We Get What We Expect

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Maybe this sounds silly, trite, or just plain wrong. Yet we see daily reminders of how reality generally matches what we expect. A quick look back at our thoughts and beliefs about a subject shows that they match current results.

If we agree that we get what we expect, why don’t we simply choose to expect more things to work out, more good results, more fun and profit?

Because it hasn’t always worked out. We have told ourselves things like, “I expect to get that promotion, make that sale, or get that grade.” And we have been disappointed.

But if we look closely, we’ll see what’s really going on. Though we had said we expected something positive, we were really focused on something opposite. Though, for example, we might be saying, ” I am going to land that job,” we often believe deep down that we won’t. We can’t expect to paste over our negative thinking and get what we want. We can tell we are pasting over because it feels bad.

The trick, then, is to find any way to raise our buzz and feel good about our expectations.

Then, yes, we can one again start expecting all sorts of good things to happen

 

In your corner,

Mike

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Inspirational Fail

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Inspirational posters and Instagram posts typically fail us. That’s because wise words do not transmit wisdom, they only coax us toward wisdom if we’re ready.  Unless we’re buzzing high enough, we will hear or read wise things and miss the importance or, worse, totally misinterpret the meaning.

This means we need to raise our buzz to understand and use wisdom.

And it means we cannot expect others to change just because we’ve laid out the logic, made the case, showed the way, or otherwise implored them. We can, however, influence them by raising our buzz, leading by the example of our behavior, learning what makes a win for them, and connecting our wins to theirs.

Be wise, good leader.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Stubbornly Undone

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For anything that remains stubbornly undone, the very last place at need to look for answers is between our ears.

Our judgments and beliefs hold both wanted and unwanted situations in place with tenacity. So it makes all kind of sense to replace any attention to unwanted (including complaints, judgments, etc.) with high-buzz attention on what we do want.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Stories

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Our success mostly rests on the stories we tell ourselves about us, them, this thing, or that situation.

Unwanted results? Wanted results? What story were you (often quietly, sometimes unknowingly) telling?

Pick the best feeling stories and watch the results shift to match.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Why We Should Resist Solving Their Problems

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When people are buzzing low, they will almost always present us with problems and complaints. If we’re not careful, we’ll get drawn into the trap of trying to solve or resolve these for them. 

Why is this a trap? Because their low buzz can easily push down our buzz. They feel bad. We react. Then we struggle to improve things from a lower buzz. This is very hard to do. And if we manage it, they’ll just come back next time with another low-buzz problem.

Instead, let’s raise our buzz around them. Without trying, they will find it much easier to start buzzing higher themselves. Then their solutions and resolutions become easy.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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