Stubbornly Undone

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For anything that remains stubbornly undone, the very last place at need to look for answers is between our ears. Our judgments and beliefs hold both wanted and unwanted situations in place with tenacity. So it makes all kind of sense to replace any attention to unwanted (including complaints, judgments, etc.) with high-buzz attention on […]

Stories

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Our success mostly rests on the stories we tell ourselves about us, them, this thing, or that situation. Unwanted results? Wanted results? What story were you (often quietly, sometimes unknowingly) telling? Pick the best feeling stories and watch the results shift to match.   In your corner, Mike   Today’s photo credit: Curtis Gregory Perry […]

Between the Ears

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What is the gist of the stories we tell ourselves, 24/7? Are they like these…? “That’s just the way it is.” “I/you/they/we/those things suck.” “It’s their/my fault.” “Life is hard.” “It’s just business.” Or like these…? “This is good.” “I appreciate me/you/them/us/those things.” “I know things will work out well; they always do.” “Life is […]

What He Said

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If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. -Marcus Aurelius   Indeed.   In your corner, Mike Today’s photo credit: mkooiman Marcus Aurelius via photopin (license)

Your Most Important Work

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The signs pointing the way to happiness (and success) at work and in life are right here, in plain sight. So why do we all seem to struggle? Though we all have seen these signs time and again (e.g. “do what you love,” “go for win-win,” or “set a compelling purpose”), we can only understand […]

Happiness Is…

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Despite what we may sometimes wish, happiness does not come from wiping out our problems. We can’t wipe them out. Like ocean waves, life is full of problems and solutions that never stop coming. We become unhappy when we see ourselves battered by these waves and needing to struggle for solutions. But we can change […]

Nothing and No One Needs Fixing

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Where our inner game is off, it normally comes from us nursing a belief about them, us, or the situation being fundamentally broken. These harsh judgments push us to try to control or fix what’s broken. And this generates huge resistance. It drags down our buzz, drains our batteries, and drives away those we need […]

The Flow is Delightful

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By doing the hard work of feeling good–despite any¬†situation and before getting into any action–we are putting ourselves into that flow we all have glimpsed and have long sought. In this flow, we replace pushing or worrying with wonder, as in, “I know it’s going to work out. I wonder how it will?” Exciting? Yes, […]