It’s like turning your head
Evolutionary neurologists have a good explanation for our habit of focusing mostly on the negative, the problems, what is wrong. They explain how we inherited …
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How to Drop the Resistance to Changing Old Habits
Success usually requires replacing some old habits with new ones. Replacing a habit is simple to do. The first step–committing to the change–can be really …
Are We Doomed to Struggle with Our Tasks?
How well are you managing your effectiveness system? Is it up to date and helping you stay atop everything? Or is it a tattered, mouldering …
How Long Will It Take?
“I want to focus on what’s right not what’s wrong.” “We want our meetings to be productive, meaningful, and efficiently planned.” “We will gather the …
Grander, Kinder, Richer, Happier
Someone recently asked, “What is the most difficult thing for a person to change?” I said, “The hardest thing for a person to change is …
Exquisite Opportunities
If we know that we have a habit of thought or behavior that no longer serves us, we can Ignore it. Honestly. We can just …
Happiness Is Not The Goal
As we prepare to enjoy some holiday or end-of-year festivities, it is important to remember something about happiness. Happiness is not a goal or result …
What Does FAE Say?
We have an odd tendency to pin blame on others instead of the situation. Social psychologists call this the fundamental attribution error (FAE). Think of …
Oddly Effective
Here are two oddly effective steps to improve your relationship and influence with anyone. Say silently to yourself about the other person, “I see that …
Do What You Can
Stephen Covey, in his famous book the The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, never said, “When you want to control, stick to what you …