When you notice another person resisting you–actively or passively–it could be because they are not convinced that you are committed to a win-win approach. They smell a “lose.”
If you recognize you are not committed to win-win, then make the commitment. If you really are committed to win-win, then over-communicate that intent to the other person. And if it’s the other person who is not committed to win-win, then over-communicate your intent to go for win-win; you can declare win-win unilaterally.
In your corner,
Mike