We have an odd tendency to pin blame on others instead of the situation. Social psychologists call this the fundamental attribution error (FAE).
Think of problems at work or home that look impossible. Often these are cases where you believe that the person or people involved will act in ways you do not want (or will not act in ways you do want) because of their personality, habits, or temperament.
FAE says, “Be careful. Focusing on who/how they might be blinds you to other causes.” She also suggests that the solutions to an impossible problem can be more easily found in the systems, situations, and environmental causes than in trying to change the people.
Listen to FAE, ‘k?
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