Still Complaining?
Complaint can never, ever solve whatever we are complaining about because it keeps us focused on what we don’t want. And so the solutions we …
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We Can Always
When faced with big or continuous obstacles, we can say, “I can’t,” “This is impossible,” “That’s not the right process,” “There’s something wrong with me/you/them/it,” …
Seeing the Good
Listen to conversations on the street, through the media, at work, and even at home. Much of what we hear is complaint. And too much …
Focusing on What’s Wrong?
Focusing on what’s wrong feels bad. And it is helpful as long as we continue on to what we want instead and what’s right already. Otherwise, …
It’s Where You Look that Matters
It seems pretty true that we get what we focus on. So why do we insist on complaint, criticism, and otherwise focusing on what’s wrong …
When We Want to Whinge
There’s nothing wrong with complaint as long as it is merely noticing. “Ah, that’s something I do not prefer.” It’s the emotion behind the complaint–the …
Why It’s Better Move On
When something unwanted happens or when someone does something we don’t like, we tend to get upset. We read the Riot Act. We make sure …
Arguing for Our Own Limitations
When we complain about, criticize, or blame others, ourselves, the situation, or the economy, we are actually arguing for our own limitation. By focusing in …
Refusing to Go Along
Others, when they are down, can take you into their tailspin. You will know you are heading down with them because you will feel bad …
Juicy Goodness
Sure you can worry, complain, or get angry about another person’s decisions, behaviors, or attitude. You can go ahead and demand, plead, negotiate, attack, capitulate, …