One way is to be what’s expected of you. That may mean playing small. Or it may mean striving to measure up or even to be better than.
Another way is to be more and more of what and who you are.
The former demands from you lots of energy, focus, and endurance. The latter gives you all that.
Knowing you, you probably would prefer the latter. And you would appreciate knowing that the key to living this way is to trust. Trust that you matter, that it will work, that you have and add value, that you are fine, safe, welcomed, and loved.
In your corner,
PS: You do, it will, you do, and you are. Just saying.