The Wise Manager

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Leading

The new manager asks or tells people what to do and wonders, “Why won’t they do what I want?” Telling louder or more nicely works but just for a while. The wise manager discovers what makes a win (big, long-term and small, near-term) for them then asks something like, “How can we both get what […]

Inspirational Fail

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Grows, Leading, We

Inspirational posters and Instagram posts typically fail us. That’s because wise words do not transmit wisdom, they only coax us toward wisdom if we’re ready.  Unless we’re buzzing high enough, we will hear or read wise things and miss the importance or, worse, totally misinterpret the meaning. This means we need to raise our buzz […]

This Is Big

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Grows

How we (deep down) feel about ourselves determines much (almost all) of our effectiveness at work and in life. We can see this easily. If we doubt ourselves or have something to prove, we will be strongly driven to perform but also easily discouraged. If we see ourselves as connected and worthy, we will be […]

Why You Need to Heed The Signal

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Grows

We’ve grown up thinking that feeling bad means that there is something wrong with us, them, or the situation and that this something wrong needs to be dealt with or avoided. Here’s a common example: We feel tense thinking about a critically important, upcoming meeting. We tell ourselves something like, “Oh, boy. This might not go well.” We […]

How Do You See This One Sentence?

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Grows, We

When we are running on battery power and drained, the tools, insights, and approaches that we most need sound wrong. Plugged in, we will see these tools, insights, and approaches as not only right but as tender gifts. Take this one for instance: “You are 100% responsible for everything that happens in your life.” (Yes, […]


Good Leadership, Wise Business

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Grows, Leading

The sages tell us that there are only two reactions to anything: fear or love. Nothing else. So if we catch ourselves feeling bad or trying to attack, avoid, complain, or criticize anything, we are in fear. The solution to whatever we fear is to love it. This does not mean we should accept something […]

puffy dance

The Dance of Change

Posted 2 CommentsPosted in Do, Leading, What

“What got you here won’t get you there.” – Marshall Goldsmith. “There is no need to change. Survival is not mandatory.” – W. Edwards Deming. “Bureaucracy defends the status quo long past the time when the quo has lost its status.” – Laurence J. Peter “Things alter for the worse spontaneously, if they be not […]


How to Use All that Wisdom

Posted Leave a commentPosted in Do, Grows

When we are running a low buzz, most of the wisdom and advice we hear sounds like misguided, wishful thinking,  at best,  or deceptive cruelty at worst. When we take the time to raise our buzz, what had been dark and ponderous becomes happily obvious and practical. This does not mean that every bon mot, […]


We Need Your Wisdom

Posted 2 CommentsPosted in Grows, We

We all need regular doses of wisdom to counter the less effective ways and thoughts we tend to carry around. Any wisdom contained in these daily notes are often simply reminders. You understand and agree with many of them. And they come with my strong respect for you and your own ways. You, as a […]