What Did You Expect?
If we generally expect people to act poorly or well, they generally will. In your corner, Mike PS: So where do you want to …
behavior
No Psychology Required
We can get into trouble trying to analyze people whose behaviors confound us. We humans are complex; even the experts stumble trying to figure out …
When You Want to Knock Heads About
We leaders spend a lot of time dealing with other people’s behaviors. But we can not blame them or use their behaviors to justify our reactions. …
Tough Love
Seeing unhelpful behavior from someone on the team, we tend to either avoid or press. If we tend to avoid, we don’t want the conflict. …
We Have To Call Them On This Stuff
Social conventions tell us not to say anything when we witness less-than-effective (or worse!) behaviors such as BS, bad-taste jokes, drama, or poor treatment of …
You Gotta Tell ‘Em
Needing to deal with poor behavior from someone (especially when it’s consistent) is actually our second problem. Our first problem is telling them. If we …
Wrong
“You are never prepared for our meetings.” “I really am no good at sales.” “They are screwing things up.” “You are wrong.” Whenever (w-h-e-n-e-v-e-r) we …
It Does Take Two to Tango
Because, as leaders, we enter many relationships, we often find ourselves bothered by and reacting to other people’s actions. Whenever and with whomever we repeatedly feel …
How to Deal With Other People’s Unhelpful Behavior
We often witness in others unhelpful behaviors that get in the way of everyone getting to desired, win-win results. Such behaviors include passivity, aggression, lying, …
An Unexpected Shortcut Through Others’ Bad Behavior
Much, if not all, of the bad behavior we see in others comes from fear, uncertainty, doubt, worry, anger, and remorse. (We can call all …