Stated Simply
Criticize to hold people in place. Encourage to help them grow. In your corner, Mike PS: Proof of the above is left to you …
Leading
Tips and Insights about influencing people toward shared goals.
Help Me to Help You
To encourage someone to improve, let’s ask for their help. First, we make it clear why it’s important to us. Next, we acknowledge how difficult …
Is Your Company a Club or a Prison?
(Spoiler: neither is good.) We can limit the health and growth of our companies by treating them like a club or like a prison. In …
The Value of Value
Hire this person who has the experience or wait to find someone who fits our culture? Discount out of fear that this client will leave …
What’s Really Possible
We learned all about what’s possible and what’s not from the well-meaning people around us especially family, teachers, and friends. But for the most part, …
Choose to Encourage
Encouragement works far better than criticism or, said euphemistically, “feedback.” Criticism causes resistance. Encouragement opens. It is the wiser, more capable part of us reminding …
What Do We Do When Something Goes Wrong?
If we want to forever be in charge of fixing the problems, then we should give lectures, orders, and consequences. If we want others to …
Getting Others to See It Your Way
To get others to see things our way, we can try being louder, more energetic, more logical, more polite, or more correct. Or (and this …
When You Want to Knock Heads About
We leaders spend a lot of time dealing with other people’s behaviors. But we can not blame them or use their behaviors to justify our reactions. …
Lack of Progress?
Lack of progress anywhere at work and in life feels bad not because there’s something broken but because we fear we can’t keep up or …