Don’t Be Realistic
Negativity is important. Without it, we can’t know what we really want. Our problem is that we stay focused on the negative long after it …
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At Moments Like These
Complaining about, fearing, or fighting something that we don’t like is the painful, slow way. Such focus only strengthens it. Focusing on what we do like is …
Which is Better: Avoid or Enjoy?
There is a vast difference between seeking positive and avoiding negative. It is very difficult to generate positive by avoiding negative. We all want and …
Overwhelming Good
A very small proportion of happenings at work, home, and around the world are negative. But it seems that the negative things capture our attention. …
It’s like turning your head
Evolutionary neurologists have a good explanation for our habit of focusing mostly on the negative, the problems, what is wrong. They explain how we inherited …
News Diet
Murder, conflict, politics, woe. Sigh. Whether we hear it, watch it, or read it, our daily dose of news stories feels bad, triggers defensiveness, and …
Three Ways of Looking at it All
There are generally three ways to look at things. And people predominately stick with the one way they are used to. Things are bad. There’s …