Remember

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Deep down, we know all this:

People follow, agree with, and buy from people who are genuinely calm, energetic (those are not mutually exclusive), and confident.

People resist people who try to fake it or who are frenetic, angry, negative, fearful, or unsure.

Negativity, fear, anger etc. come from regretting the past or worrying about the future. To be genuinely calm, energetic, and confident, focus on now. To get to now, quickly, we raise our buzz.

Everything happens now. We can handle anything that happens now. We can be curious, open, kind, vulnerable, strong, and delighted now. Everything we need we have now. Now tastes delicious, is low-calorie, and is highly profitable.

Remember.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Powerful Leaders vs. Forceful Leaders

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We tend to confuse power with force.

Force makes things happen or makes people do what we want. Force generates and must constantly counter resistance. Force drains.

Power is clarity about and alignment of our purposes. With power, the right things get done with ease. There is no force in power. Power sustains.

We want to be powerful leaders, not forceful ones.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Nothing More Powerful

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Need someone to change for the better? Nothing is more powerful than believing that they can and telling them so.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We can’t really fake this. They can tell when we’re just sayin’ it. But we don’t have to be 100% certain. Just mostly certain. I know you can find a way to be at least 51% sure they will succeed.

 

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About Your Power

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Our power is our capacity to create. It flows through our desire, our vision, our reason and knowledge, and how we engage and influence others.

Power is different from force. Force is what we might use to make people and things bend to our will.

Power feels good. Force feels bad. When we use our power, we get more. It’s like being plugged into the mains. When we use our force, we get weaker. It’s like running on battery power.

Power is what we feel when we raise our buzz.

And power is the missing piece of the puzzle that you’ve been searching for all this time.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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We Can Cultivate Confidence

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Leading, influencing, selling, and success-in-general require that we are confident. We are confident when we trust our power. Our power is our ability to create through our thoughts. Unexpectedly, our power appears to be always there, always on. The trick is being very picky about which thoughts we focus our attention upon. Yes, even that one…and that one, too.

Time to cultivate confidence.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: And I, for one, am looking forward to see what your confident self is creating.

 

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What Do They Mean, “Now”?

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The sages tell us to be present, live in the now. They all swear by it. They say it’s where we are most powerful. And they share their heartiest, “It’s the grooviest, man,” “You gotta dig it,” and similar endorsements whenever the topic comes up.

But what do they mean really? And what about history? What about planning? Are they saying we can’t learn from the past or plan for the future?

What they mean is that we waste tons of time and energy regretting the past and worrying about the future. Since we can only ever think or act right now (just try thinking something tomorrow or yesterday), regret and worrying offer us no help. None. Period. So why do it?

Learning from the past and planning for the future are fine so long as it feels good to do so. Beating ourselves up about the past and fretfully or angrily trying to arrange the future feel really bad. Accepting the past and painting a picture of what we want to see happen feel good. Imagining how good it will be when that picture comes true feels great.

Let’s do that…now.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Far out, eh?

 

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Power and its Opposite

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Let’s agree to be powerful leaders (with or without title).

To do that, let’s first distinguish power from its opposite. Power is the stance of a person who knows who she is, who understands his habits and fears, and who, no matter what happens or may happen, remains undefended and clearly focused on and in (though not of) this moment. It seems that, just by being present, a powerful person makes desired results happen more easily. Power builds on itself.

The opposite of power is force or control. Control (or force) is the stance of a defensive person. Not knowing themselves, forceful people blindly deploy their defenses with disappointing and even destructive results. Controlling, forceful people generate resistance to desired results even as they seek to make things happen. Force and control eventually collapse.

Of course, power and its opposite are not binary states; they seem to be two ends of a spectrum. We appear to sit somewhere on the line between the two.

Because power and force can take many and similar forms, we can confuse them. One forceful person can seem docile and a powerful one can seem demanding. That’s why we need to keep the distinction between the two. Otherwise we can be tempted to emulate or distance ourselves from the wrong one.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: As in, trying not to be powerful for fear we’d be forceful. Or acting forceful because we think that is what is powerful. Happens all the time.
PPS: Just so we’re clear: power comes from deep love. Force comes from fear.
PPPS: Really, all of us are 100% powerful. Yes, especially you. If it doesn’t seem so it is because the opposite of power is temporarily covering the power.

 

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Be a Powerful Leader

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A forceful leader defends her vulnerabilities and discounts her people’s capabilities. All that remains available to her to get things done is some form of shoving. A powerful leader has no need to defend and believes more in others’ capabilities than even they themselves do. As a result, lots of good work gets done.

From what I can tell, that kind of power is in us all.

Be a powerful leader.

 

In your corner,

Mike

Get Something Rolling

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When things around you are going poorly and it seems you have no power to change it, think again.

You can change more than you imagine.

We think we have no power only because we confuse power with force. We forget the difference and end up thinking we need to use force. That feels awful because we know in our hearts that force (which includes criticism, complaint, and fighting) makes things worse. Pointing out where others are at fault doesn’t help a bit. Adding your grievance to the pile just makes a bigger pile of what no one wants.

So use your power. Your power is your ability to care and act in ways only you can. Find ways to create value and wins. To bring love. To start small, get something rolling, and let it grow.

You are surrounded by others who are feeling the pressure of the same crappy situations you face. Look about you. Listen. What does your boss need? What would help your colleague? What can you do for your client to cause her or him to sigh in relief? What about your family and friends? Even in the crappiest situations (and even with people you might imagine are your opponents), you have the power. It’s in you.

Start from where you are. I can’t wait to see what you get rolling.

 

In your corner,

Mike