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Leading in Different Times #1: Set the Tone

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This is the first in a series of Play notes about leading well during different times such as this one. Tone is a simple, subtle, and extremely powerful leadership tool. We need to set the right tone every day. Tone is the fundamental perspective we use to make decisions and act. The wrong tone makes […]

Light Up

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At times like this, it’s good to remember: one of us shining a light helps hundreds, thousands, or millions to step away from the dark. Should we find ourselves or others stuck and focusing on the problem, we know we can always shine the light on our ability to pause and choose to feel good […]

Don’t Change the World

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Whether when musing about the news or choosing our next job/project, we can trip up thinking that we are here to change the world. We’re not. There’s something more delicious for us to do: change our world. The world is too distant, distracting, and depressing. It’s full of spiky obstacles, shiny objects, and competing ideologies. […]

Co-misery

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The word commiserate comes from Latin: “Com-” meaning with + “miserari” meaning to lament (from “miser” which means wretched). We have a habit of commiserating. We respond to others’ disconnected, low-buzz state by disconnecting ourselves. When someone is miserable, we join them. If we don’t, they get more miserable. If we do, then we are […]

We Could Think of It This Way

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With all of the evil in the world, we could believe things are becoming worse. Or we can recognize that the same sorts of bad deeds have always happened. But now we’re exposing more. Thanks, Internet! And we can feel better knowing that bad always withers in the light. So keep on shining yours. In […]

Freedom From Isn’t Freedom

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We all always want to be happy, growing, and free. We can think about freedom in two ways. There’s freedom from the things that bug us, stop us, or threaten us. Then there is freedom. The difference is in how these two ideas feel. When we think about things we want freedom from, we are […]

Paper Tiger

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Cognitive dissonance unconsciously drives us to twist things to match our beliefs about ourselves, each other, the situation, and the world. We are all subject to it. Yet every day, we take in all sorts of new and vital information. Some of it will trigger our cognitive dissonance. To get the benefit of this information, […]

Buzzzzz Up a Little

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When our buzz is low, we can’t leap to the high buzz we want. Frustrated to Elated, for example, is too big of a jump. But we can raise our buzz to something slightly better. Take three deep breaths then ask, “What’s a thought that feels slightly better than this?”In less than a minute you’ll […]