Give Yourself These Important Gifts 

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Running around, overwhelmed, and (truth be told) only just keeping it together probably isn’t what we signed up for. But it is not necessary to be like this to be successful. We can be effective leaders (with or without title) and be mostly at ease.

Impossible, you say? But it is so!

We can become leaders at ease by giving ourselves the gifts of planning, presence, and persistence.

The gift of planning is dedicated daily and weekly time to gather all we could do and select what we will do. Instead of diving headlong and stressed into our days and weeks, we give ourselves the gift of clearing the decks and thinking through things.

The gift of presence is catching ourselves when we are regretting the past or worrying about the future and giving ourselves a deep breath and self-assurance that this will work out perfectly well.

The gift of persistence is simply committing to be this type of leader at ease. Here we give ourselves the discipline and focus we need to get good at planning and presence.

Yes; you have these gifts to give.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Like the well-mannered people we are, we will of course gratefully accept these gifts we give ourselves.
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The Heart of Leadership: Present and Powerful

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Our power is in the present. (How can it be otherwise?) When we are present–especially in interactions with others–we choose to influence where we can, to control what we can (i.e. our own responses), and to handle whatever actually happens rather that what we fear might happen. When we are not present, we are running old programs to avoid–among other things–being obstructed, rejected, hurt, or criticized. Not being present, we think that our best path is to make things happen, to bluster, or to avoid.

A bit of self trust and a commitment to win-win are two necessary and healthy prerequisites. With them, we can be present and powerful for any important conversation, meeting, or event. And things generally will turn out very well.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Present Present

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Presence is simply staying focused on what’s happening now instead of worrying about the future, regretting the past, defending ourselves (“Here’s why I am justified…”), or attacking others (“I am so right and you/they are not”).

There is a gift inside every moment. We miss the gift when we are too busy worrying, regretting, defending, or attacking. The gift is knowing that we are now–in this very moment–safe, that now we can handle anything, and that we now respond adeptly to whatever does show up.  A much better way to be, yes?

Being present, we get the present.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Remember

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Deep down, we know all this:

People follow, agree with, and buy from people who are genuinely calm, energetic (those are not mutually exclusive), and confident.

People resist people who try to fake it or who are frenetic, angry, negative, fearful, or unsure.

Negativity, fear, anger etc. come from regretting the past or worrying about the future. To be genuinely calm, energetic, and confident, focus on now. To get to now, quickly, we raise our buzz.

Everything happens now. We can handle anything that happens now. We can be curious, open, kind, vulnerable, strong, and delighted now. Everything we need we have now. Now tastes delicious, is low-calorie, and is highly profitable.

Remember.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Life Becomes Easier, That’s Why

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Let’s be present. Presence means neither regretting the past nor worrying about the future. It means not trying to control things. It means accepting what’s true now, declaring what (if anything) we want to be true, being open insights and inspirations, then acting with appropriate speed on those insights and inspirations.

But why bother? Learning to do this is really hard. Our habits are so well ingrained.

Because life becomes easier the more we are present. Regret, worry, and control demand lots of energy that we could better use for achieving what we want.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Yes, this even works if your habit or preference has been to jump right into action.

 

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Build the Presence Habit

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When we are present, it can look to others like we have suddenly become much more powerful, smart, worldly, and wise. And, in a way, we have. Which is kinda nice.

And it encourages us to be more and more present. To be present more, we build the presence habit it just like any other habit. We start by setting a goal to be more present then noticing when we are instead focused fixing the past or controlling the future.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Might As Well Be You

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It only takes one person to be present to change everything.

Might as well be you.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Of course, being present, you aren’t trying to change anything. It’s more like you are quietly expecting Better to show up and are bemusedly curious about how it will work out this time.

PPS: I know, I know. It’s nonsensical… at first.

PPPS: Yes, everything.

 

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Leadership, Sales, and Influence Mastery

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We can always learn useful, respectful, and effective ways to lead, sell, and influence. And, with effort, we will succeed. We have an opportunity, though, to make leading, selling, and influencing effortless. We can become masters of these crafts by become masters of presence.

Presence is a state where we are neither regretting and trying to fix the past nor worrying about and trying to control the future.

When we lead, sell, and influence from presence, we are no longer hooked to any specific path so all paths open up to us. Resistance (our own and that of other people) fades, people are attracted to working with us, and–the best part–creative, effective, win-win solutions appear rapidly and often.

Which is nice.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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