There are two kinds of want. One is useful. The other is quite damaging.
When you use the first kind of want, it might sound like this, “I want a new car.” The second kind sounds like this, “I want a new car.”
I admit, it’s hard to spot the difference. But listen closely, and you’ll soon hear that the first kind of want is a statement of celebration and excited anticipation. It’s as if you are saying, “Yes! This is wonderful. I love it. I look forward to having it. The anticipation of it coming is fun.” The second kind is, oddly, a testament to lack. It’s as if you are saying, “Oh, I ache for that. It seems so far away. I don’t have it now. I wonder if I’ll ever have it. I really want it. I don’t know how to get it. I have to work hard to get it. Maybe I won’t get it.”
Which want works? Which would I say is the one to go with–even without evidence–because it’s so much more useful?
Yup. You got it.
In your corner,