In Our Own Minds

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Our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds. Napoleon Hill Hmm. All in our minds, eh? We can certainly find plenty of evidence that says our problems are out there, not in here. We might be right but is it helpful? Try this. Ask, “What’s the worst that could happen if […]

When Doors Close

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Here’s something that we know and sometimes forget: one door closing causes infinite other doors to open. The joy is in the choosing. “What now?” is a delicious question. Then, having chosen, the joy is in choosing to appreciate what we have chosen. Another word for this is love. In your corner, Michael

Rule of Thumb

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Here’s a helpful rule of thumb: head towards fear, discomfort, or tension. Not to abuse yourself (“gotta take my lumps, must work hard”), not to assert your will over anything (how silly), but to get the gift. There is always a gift hiding in there. And the gift makes things easier. In your corner, Michael

Just This

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No dark fate determines our future. We do. Each day and each moment, we are able to create and re-create our lives and the very quality of human life on our planet. I love the core of joy, hope, and strength in this quote from the Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu. Feel it? May your […]

Co-misery

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The word commiserate comes from Latin: “Com-” meaning with + “miserari” meaning to lament (from “miser” which means wretched). We have a habit of commiserating. We respond to others’ disconnected, low-buzz state by disconnecting ourselves. When someone is miserable, we join them. If we don’t, they get more miserable. If we do, then we are […]

We Could Think of It This Way

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With all of the evil in the world, we could believe things are becoming worse. Or we can recognize that the same sorts of bad deeds have always happened. But now we’re exposing more. Thanks, Internet! And we can feel better knowing that bad always withers in the light. So keep on shining yours. In […]

Freedom From Isn’t Freedom

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We all always want to be happy, growing, and free. We can think about freedom in two ways. There’s freedom from the things that bug us, stop us, or threaten us. Then there is freedom. The difference is in how these two ideas feel. When we think about things we want freedom from, we are […]

Paper Tiger

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Cognitive dissonance unconsciously drives us to twist things to match our beliefs about ourselves, each other, the situation, and the world. We are all subject to it. Yet every day, we take in all sorts of new and vital information. Some of it will trigger our cognitive dissonance. To get the benefit of this information, […]

Buzzzzz Up a Little

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When our buzz is low, we can’t leap to the high buzz we want. Frustrated to Elated, for example, is too big of a jump. But we can raise our buzz to something slightly better. Take three deep breaths then ask, “What’s a thought that feels slightly better than this?”In less than a minute you’ll […]