Far-Fetched Fantasies of Success

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We are so used to thinking what could go wrong. We dive into far-fetched fantasies to explore the worst possible things that could happen. Flitting from this topic to that, we go through our days often not even aware of this bad-feeling monologue. One antidote: write down all the ways it could go right. Pick […]


Think Again

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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson When you are headed for the inevitable, think again. Others may appear to be getting in your way. Think again. Whenever you think you just don’t fit, think again. If you regret what has happened or […]


Why “Earning” Feels Bad

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When we think the word “earn” as in “earn your keep,” “earn your way,” or “earn a living,” it can feel quite bad. (It’s odd, given how we seem to want to earn.) We can have two not-so-helpful reactions. One is a sense of incomplete pride: “Look what I have done (and there’s more to […]

Why We Can’t Hold On To Success

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Once we get plugged in, raise our buzz, and are feeling confident, we feel so great and are enjoying the results so much that we may be tempted to hold on to this state. But we can’t. It’s not because “there are ups and downs in life,” “we have to accept the bad with the […]

How You Must Change When Leading, Selling, and Influencing

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Leading, selling, and influencing are basically the same noble activity: having all who matter think and act in ways that benefit all who matter: win-win-win-win-etc. Of course, “all who matter” includes you. You are included amongst the winners. And your thinking and actions must be included, too. As a leader, seller, and influencer, allow your […]

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Each Little Thing

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Moment by moment, every chance we get, we can catch ourselves feeling bad and find a way to raise our buzz, to feel good. With each little thing–remaining calm despite traffic on the highway, letting go thoughts about how another person annoys us, breathing deeply to release tension, setting aside ideas about what’s wrong with […]

What Are You Saying?

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If you say that your endeavor won’t succeed, it won’t. If you say, “I hope it succeeds but really fear it won’t,” it won’t. If you say, “I would want this to succeed but I can’t see how it could,” it won’t. On the other hand, you could say, “I am excited about this project. […]


Large, Nutty, Impossible Goals

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“I want to make an extra $100,000 this year.” “I am going to run an ultra marathon.” “I am going to lose 50 pounds and keep the weight off.” “We are going to triple our sales.” “I am going to get a meaningful, rewarding job that lets me balance my life and still pays well.” […]