Clear

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Get clear on the what and the why. The how, who, and when will become silly simple. Any focus on the who, how, and when without really knowing the what and the why explains most of the resistance, pain, or frustration we experience.   In your corner, Mike PS: Yes. Resistance, pain, and frustration are […]

Contributing to the Problem?

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In all conflicts, both sides contribute. Every time we get wound up by another’s behavior, we must stop to see how our reactions add to the problem. Once we see our contribution, we can change it. This does not mean that we are to capitulate, get angry, fall on our sword, or try to assign […]

Overwhelming Good

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A very small proportion of happenings at work, home, and around the world are negative. But it seems that the negative things capture our attention. That is odd because we are doing mostly fine. Perhaps the positive things happen so frequently that we hardly notice them. Don’t let people (particularly pundits, politicians, and other predators) […]

Presenting Problems

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Doctors and others in the helping professions know to take presenting problems (“My arm hurts, Doc.”) and presenting solutions (“I need a prescription.”) with a grain of salt. They listen, empathize, then start exploring for the real problem before suggesting any solutions. Good leaders do the same things. We know that the complaints and requests […]

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Turn the Camera

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Most organizations spend untold time and money explaining what they (and their products and services) do and why they are so good. Look at their websites to see that they have the camera firmly turned at themselves. Most prospective clients, on the other hand, focus on the the results they want and the obstacles they […]

When the Fit Hits the Shan

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When things go wrong, our habit is to try to control (actively or passively) things, people, and outcomes. But that hardly ever works. And when it does work, it’s at great cost. No, when the fit his the shan, the best bet is to pause, raise our buzz, listen, and observe. Things will start sorting […]

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Accept and Pivot

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One way of navigating a problem is to say, “If only…” If only that person would change. If only this situation would be different. If only I hadn’t done that. If only I had a fairy godmother to handle this for me. Another way is to say, “Yes. And.” Yes, that happened. And here’s what […]