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Take the Time

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“You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen. Simply wait, be quiet, still, and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice; it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.” –Franz Kafka Just beyond the hurly-burly […]

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Pollyanna

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To be a Pollyanna is to be irrepressibly positive amidst the realities of life. Those who haven’t figured it out yet use the term pejoratively. They say, “Face the realities of life! Don’t try to pretend everything is great when it clearly is not. Don’t be such a Pollyanna.” And we say, “Of course we […]

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Why Wouldn’t You?

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What if every thought was a self-fulfilling prophecy? What if every notion, judgment, or idea you had would eventually become a reality? If it was true but you were not aware of it, your life might appear sort of random. Positive, good-feeling thoughts about what you want and negative, yucky-feeling ones about what you don’t […]

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Happiness Ain’t…

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Being happy does not mean looking at something that is not working and then putting on a wan smile. It is not about humbly accepting crap like a martyr or putting a bandaid over whatever has you upset, fearful, angry, sad, etc. It’s not about getting happy and holding onto it for dear life. And […]

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Backwards

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Let’s say that X is something that we want. Most of the time, we say, “When X happens, then I will be happy.” We all know, unfortunately, that this doesn’t work. When you pin happiness, satisfaction, or joy on achieving something, that something either becomes a struggle or generates only fleeting glimpses of happiness. What […]

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Really, Really, Over-the-Moon Happy

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What if I were to ask you, “What would make you really, really, over-the-moon happy?” What would you say? Would you say something like “having all the money I need,” “being able to spend more time with family and friends,” “to have my business be a success,” “to restore and maintain my health,” “to be […]

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Who Says You Can’t?

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Who says you can’t have what you want? Who says you can’t be as healthy, prosperous, and happy as you desire? Who says you can’t bypass the way things are? Who says you can’t have yours without taking it from someone else? Who says you can’t enjoy yourself along the way? Who says you can’t […]

Rinse Your Conditionals

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Where, at work and home, are you trying to strike a bargain that looks like this? “When X becomes true, then I will be happy, satisfied, or free.” No need for the conditional. You can choose to be happy, satisfied, and free right now and whenever.   In your corner, Mike   PS: Choosing to […]

Happiness Is Not The Goal

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As we prepare to enjoy some holiday or end-of-year festivities, it is important to remember something about happiness. Happiness is not a goal or result of our effort. Happiness is a state we can enter or not, at will. When we see it as a result, we strive and struggle. We say, “If I do […]