As complexity in our work goes up, the effectiveness of our groups goes down. With greater complexity, we lose our ability to intuitively see, understand, prioritize, and complete important work together. Then things get really hairy. We end up thinking the ensuing problems are personal or interpersonal. And we search fruitlessly for explanations and solutions based in personality to deal with the issues.
The root cause here is not personality but the often more casual approach we take to getting stuff done together. What works is being just a bit more dedicated to win-win and a bit more systematic in communicating, planning, negotiating, and agreeing.
In your corner,