Other people can be quite frustrating. Since they don’t want to be told what to do or think, how can we possibly lead, sell, or influence people to see things or do things in a new way?
Simple. Start asking questions. Not as an interrogator, mind you. Be curious and caring. Ask them what they want for themselves in the near-, mid-, and long-term future. Ask them what they think might be their first steps. Ask them if you may share your suggestions (e.g. “You might try taking on this new responsibility.”) and requests (“My request is that you follow through on work you said you would complete.”), too. Ask them what obstacles might get in the way and how they might clear them. Ask them how it would feel if they could achieve all this.
In your corner,
PS: If you are resisting your own good ideas, how might this approach help you to help yourself?