If what you need from another is that they are self-sufficient, confident, creative, and working well with others, then encourage them with love, patience, trust, and your time.
If what you want from another is fighting, procrastination, resentment, anger, and hurt, then push, criticize, minimize, or reject them.
Your choice, as always.
In your corner,
PS: Of course, this works perfectly well at work and at home. Bonus!