Our power is in the present. (How can it be otherwise?) When we are present–especially in interactions with others–we choose to influence where we can, to control what we can (i.e. our own responses), and to handle whatever actually happens rather that what we fear might happen. When we are not present, we are running old programs to avoid–among other things–being obstructed, rejected, hurt, or criticized. Not being present, we think that our best path is to make things happen, to bluster, or to avoid.
A bit of self trust and a commitment to win-win are two necessary and healthy prerequisites. With them, we can be present and powerful for any important conversation, meeting, or event. And things generally will turn out very well.
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