Nothing Is As Powerful As…

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They say that nothing is as powerful as an idea whose time has come. Actually, there is one thing more powerful: a person who has committed herself or himself to a clear, compelling outcome. Committed means, “This will happen. It won’t happen through bull-headedness, force,  or hope. There may be obstacles but no excuses. I will simply see to it, seeing it through until it’s done.” This tends to work really well for things we want.

What do you want, dear leader?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Funny, the original quote is, “On résiste à l’invasion des armées; on ne résiste pas à l’invasion des idées.” – Victor Hugo. “We can resist army invasions but not idea invasions.”

 

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The Wrong Sorts of Want

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We often do wanting wrong.

Want-yeah-but is what happens when we want something, deep down doubt it’s possible, and list all the reasons why what we want just can’t be.

Want-hope-so is what happens when we want something, deep down doubt it’s possible, but pray that luck is on our side this time.

Want-damn-it is what happens when we want something, deep down doubt it’s possible, but think our only hope is to press hard to make it happen.

These approaches fail because they all sprout from that deep down doubt.

What does work is Want-know-it. This happens when we want something, feel good about it, and anticipate–with curiosity (“Wonder how it will happen?”) and quiet excitement–it’s arrival.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Want-know-it can be a difficult trick sometimes. We have to set aside doubt. We have to do that in the face of evidence we have gathered for decades to prove to ourselves that we should doubt. Luckily, we get better with practice. And we have a good chance of success even if we use Want-know-it a fraction of the time.

PPS: We can tell Want-know-it from the other three because they all feel a little or a lot bad when we use them.

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Want

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The sages tell us to get present and find joy right here and now. There is nothing more we need. We can be happy now without achieving our acquiring anything. Striving, they say, leads to misery.

People have long misinterpreted the sages. They think that the sages mean we should stop wanting, be small, do without–that we should deny ourselves and feel guilty about what we might want. “To want is bad,” they might say.

Nope. That’s not what the sages mean.

Yes, striving doesn’t work. And yes, we can raise our buzz and choose happiness right now, despite circumstance. Once we are there, we can joyfully choose to achieve or acquire anything we desire. From joy, want is good.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We can always tell whether a want is bad or good by how it feels. Good wants feel warm and exiting. Striving, guilt, and denial feel bad.

PPS: And from joy, our want benefits others, too. (In case you were feeling guilty about that.) You can prove this to yourself easily.

 

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There is Only One Reason Why

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What do you most want right now?

And why do you want it?

And why is that?

And why is that?

(et cetera)

 

If we keep asking, “Why?,” we will eventually land on, “Because I want to feel happy.” Whatever we want, we want it so that we can feel happy. Beyond this, there seem to be no more answers to the question, “And why is that?”

Yet there is a shortcut: we can start feeling happy right now, before we get what we want.

Cool, ain’t it? Works a charm, every time.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: This does not at all mean that we should stop wanting what we want. Wanting is the great inspiration for life and, paradoxically, happiness.

PPS: If you tend to associate wanting with sadness, try the shortcut.

PPPS: When we use the shortcut, what we want has a freaky way of showing up faster than we imagined it was possible.

PPPPS: Makes me shudder with joy just thinking about it.

 

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When What We Want Remains Out Of Reach

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We have good want and bad want. Good want says things like, “I want this and am excited that it is on its way.” Bad want says things like, “I want this but there are so many obstacles.” Good want feels good. Bad want feels bad.

We always have the ability to choose between good want and bad want. If what we want remains out of reach, we must be mostly running the “bad want” program. In this case, the trick is not to stop wanting what we want but to feel good then want.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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What Do You Want, Really?

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What do you want, my friend? A new car, job, or relationship? More sales, money, or health? A house, a vacation, or someone to change their mind?

Why, kind soul, do you want this? What important quality would increase in your life? Satisfaction, meaning, or joy? Respect, growth, or freedom? Excitement, delight, or calm? Maybe love, connection, or fit?

How, honored one, would it feel–physically, in your body–if you had that quality you want?

Go ahead. Feel it.

If it feels like a buzz, release, relief, lightness, or warmth, then you have just received what you want, really.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Really. Truth.

PS: And, I bet, made it much more likely for you to get the car, vacation, or the changed mind, too. Worst case? You felt great for a moment.

PPS: Repeat whenever. And give it away.
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Getting What You Want

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Getting what you want always starts with stating what you want. Though it sounds simple, most of us don’t actually do it. We either don’t think it’s necessary to state what we want or we don’t think it’s possible to have what we want. Yet we can get what we need, want, or desire by being clear and specific about what we want, going for win-win, writing it down, removing countermanding beliefs, and acting as inspired.

Try this:

  • Write down a list of things you want. Include whatever you wish to include from whatever parts of your work and life. Make it as long or as short as you like. It is quite important that you write this list and get it out of your head. Where something you want involves others, include on your list what would be a win for them.
  • Read your list daily. Read every item, carefully. Look to feel great and be inspired by your list. As you read, watch your reactions. Where you have a good-feeling reaction, great. Where you have a bad feeling reaction–often, it will only be a brief pang–you have a belief about why what you want isn’t possible. Countermanding beliefs like these limit our perspectives, stall our actions, and affect others’ opinions about us. Try a flip or a ladder to generate great-feeling thoughts and excitement.
  • Act as inspired. Feeling good, you will get new insights, opportunities, and connections that you will be inspired to act upon. Do so.

What do you want?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: The thought of reading your list daily seems overwhelming. After the first few days, though, you’ll want to do it because it is rewarding.

 

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Zoom-Tingly-Yes

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Imagine that success–your success–is right here, waiting just outside your door. If this were true, what would you do? Of course, you would open the door. That is, you would have a swagger in your step, a smile on your face, and a wonderful zoom-tingly-yes! feeling leaping up inside you.

The really weird thing is that whenever we pretend that our success is right here–when we swagger, smile, and cultivate that zoom-tingly-yes! feeling–real success tends to show up.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Yes, Give Away What You Most Want

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Tell me something you really, really need in your life. And I’ll tell you what you really, really need to give to others.

“Whoa,” you say. “How can I give what I don’t have?”

Well that’s the trick. And here’s how to do it.

First, what do you want? Maybe it’s money, time, business results, or family outcomes.

Next, tell me what it would mean to you to have what you want. What would it feel like to have what you want? Maybe it would mean calm, energy, confidence, joy, relief, a sense of accomplishment, or a sense of belonging.

Great. Now give that to someone who needs it. Give calm, energetic, confident, etc. Be calm, energetic, confident, etc. This is very easy to do.

And the fact that you can give any of these states quietly emphasizes to yourself that you already have exactly what you most want.

In your corner,

Mike

PS: See?