Why We Can’t Hold On To Success

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Once we get plugged in, raise our buzz, and are feeling confident, we feel so great and are enjoying the results so much that we may be tempted to hold on to this state. But we can’t.

It’s not because “there are ups and downs in life,” “we have to accept the bad with the good,” or “into every life some rain must fall.” It’s because any attempt to hold on to something good comes from a thought about how these good-feeling states are scarce, difficult to achieve, or somehow not a natural part of our lives. That thought gives way to us dropping out of that state.

The trick is not to hold on but to recognize as quickly as possible whenever we have a low buzz, are not plugged in, or are feeling unsure. And then we use any of our tools to get back just as quickly.

Over time, we stay longer and longer. Doing so, we train ourselves to know that these good-feeling states and the good results they sponsor are plentiful, easy to come by, and a natural part of who we are.

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Bonus points today if you can help someone else use this idea, too.

How You Must Change When Leading, Selling, and Influencing

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Leading, selling, and influencing are basically the same noble activity: having all who matter think and act in ways that benefit all who matter: win-win-win-win-etc.

Of course, “all who matter” includes you. You are included amongst the winners. And your thinking and actions must be included, too. As a leader, seller, and influencer, allow your thinking and actions to change in ways that benefit all who matter.

In your corner,

Mike

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Each Little Thing

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Moment by moment, every chance we get, we can catch ourselves feeling bad and find a way to raise our buzz, to feel good. With each little thing–remaining calm despite traffic on the highway, letting go thoughts about how another person annoys us, breathing deeply to release tension, setting aside ideas about what’s wrong with this or that–we prepare ourselves to get the big and important things we desire in our lives.

Feeling good, now?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We can tell if we have not been catching these little things because the big and important things seem to remain out of reach.

 

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How To Apply The Right Thinking At The Right Time

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Critical thinking is important. And it is horrible if we apply it while we are creating a mission, strategy, or goals. Critical thinking here derails the considerations, explorations, and dreaming.

The creative thinking we use build strategies etc. is wonderful. And it, too, is rotten if we apply it when we are meant to be implementing and executing. Creative thinking here derails the detailed planning, problem solving, and progress.

Apply the right thinking at the right time. Pro tip: decide ahead of time the purpose of each meeting: strategy or implementation. In strategy meetings, focus on answering the questions, “What is true now?”, “What do we want to be true?”, and “Why?”. In implementation meetings, focus on answering the questions, “Who?”, “How?”, and “When?”. In each type of meeting, capture the thoughts of the other type for the next appropriate meeting where they will be welcome and useful.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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How to Think About Something You’ve Always Wanted

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We know that everything begins with a thought. We get that our thoughts have that weird way of greasing the skids, preparing the soil, or setting the stage for what we want. But what about something we have wanted for a long time? Something that remains stubbornly out of reach?

Well, there is a difference between longing for something that never seems to arrive and expecting something to arrive even when the evidence appears to point in the opposite direction, if you get my meaning.

A big difference.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Hint: we can feel the difference. One feels bad and the other feels good.

PPS: Esoteric? Perhaps. But do you dare try it?

 

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What Are You Saying?

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If you say that your endeavor won’t succeed, it won’t. If you say, “I hope it succeeds but really fear it won’t,” it won’t. If you say, “I would want this to succeed but I can’t see how it could,” it won’t.

On the other hand, you could say, “I am excited about this project. When I imagine it completed, it feels good. The next step is right there and it is simple,.” Saying those things, would you be more or less open to the opportunities that appear? Would you be more or less influential with the people who can help you help you?

Right.

So, what are you saying?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Large, Nutty, Impossible Goals

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“I want to make an extra $100,000 this year.” “I am going to run an ultra marathon.” “I am going to lose 50 pounds and keep the weight off.” “We are going to triple our sales.” “I am going to get a meaningful, rewarding job that lets me balance my life and still pays well.”

What happens when we consider very large goals? Frequently, we back away. They seem too impossible. “That’s nutty. I do not want to push as hard as I would need to in order to hit this goal. No, thanks.”

Yet the apparent impossibility is the very thing that makes large goals possible.

Consider the large goal of earning much more money. From a certain perspective, making and extra $100,000 or even $1,000,000 per year is easier that making an extra $1,000 per year. How so? Because you can make and extra $1,000 by doing a bit more of what you do now. Making an extra $10,000 might mean pressing even harder. But I don’t think anyone can push so hard that they can make an extra hundred grand or mil. No, jumps of that scale demand you think differently.

Unable to rely on our old ways, new ways become the solution. New ways start with new thoughts. “If I were to make an extra $100,000 this year, what would I have to believe, think, or do to make that happen?” These thoughts are only different, not difficult, to think.

What might be your large, nutty, “impossible” goal?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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What Buddha Said

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Here’s an interesting quotation:

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” – Gautama Siddharta

What’s relevant is that many of the other sages have also said basically the same thing. Pause now and imagine the implications should this statement be true, really-really-true.

What would you like to become? Think that.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Between You and More

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Most of us would say we want more–more money, more time, more love, more ease, more health. That’s fine. And there really isn’t that much standing between us and having it. The problem is that we misuse the best tool available to us for having what we want: our thinking. Here are the top 3 thoughts that keep away whatever “more” we want:

  • It is bad to want or have it.” If we think that it’s bad, how can we ever allow it into our lives? This thought sometimes takes the form of humility: “If I have it and others don’t, that wouldn’t be fair; so I won’t have it.” The funny thing is that we cannot help others by being poorer, lonelier, busier, or sicker. We can do a better job helping others by filling our lives–even just a bit at a time–before trying to help others. Yes, think of the airplane safety instructions: put on your mask first.
  • There is something wrong with me, others, or the world that keeps me from having it.” When we think (complain) about things like our unworthiness, their greed, or the limited available resources, we are saying that we can’t have what we want due to something being broken. Nothing’s that broken, mes amis.
  • Having it means I’d have to change my idea of who I am.” This one is the most insidious and most powerful. We care very deeply about our identity. If we can find a way to be the people who have and enjoy what we want, then we will have tapped a huge source of success.

The clue to changing these three thoughts is how they feel to think them. They all feel awful. We should feel good. Find a way of replacing the bad-feeling thoughts with good-feeling ones. Try flipping, “this is me”, or the ladder.

 

In your corner,

Mike
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Invest in Good Thoughts

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Effectiveness Habit #2 is titled “Feel good. Then act.” This habit reminds us that taking action when you feel bad leads to less than optimal results. Part of the reason: in a low-energy, bad-feeling state, your opinions about the world and yourself will distract you from what you want.

For example, consider thoughts like “I am too busy. I am not any good at this. I always struggle with X. Others will criticize me for Y.” They feel bad.
 
And what about thoughts that say you are smart, capable, kind, worthy, contributing, loving, and loved? They feel good, ya?

Which set of thoughts, if you thought them, would get you closer to the results you want? Which ones would distract you more?

Right. Think the good ones.

To your continued success,

Mike

PS: I think the thoughts about you being smart, capable, kind, etc, are more accurate, aren’t they? Heck, yeah!

PPS: Thinking the good thoughts is easier than you imagine. And investing in that kind of thinking pays off huge dividends.