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Think Again

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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”Ralph Waldo Emerson

When you are headed for the inevitable, think again.

Others may appear to be getting in your way. Think again.

Whenever you think you just don’t fit, think again.

If you regret what has happened or worry about what might happen, think again.

You may catch yourself saying, “That will never work!” Think again.

Should you ever believe that people don’t understand, value, or respect you or your work, think again.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

PS: I am quite certain you are vastly more powerful than you may sometimes imagine. Think again, ‘k?

 

 

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Why “Earning” Feels Bad

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When we think the word “earn” as in “earn your keep,” “earn your way,” or “earn a living,” it can feel quite bad. (It’s odd, given how we seem to want to earn.) We can have two not-so-helpful reactions. One is a sense of incomplete pride: “Look what I have done (and there’s more to do).” The other, far more common, is a sense of weight: “Look at all I must do (and how will I ever handle it?)”

Take a moment and feel both versions. If you do, you will sense a not-so-good feeling that comes from a deeply engrained, unhelpful thought. For me, that thought might be, “I live in a dangerous world and I must struggle to survive.” For you, it may be, “Who am I? I am small. I must do everything right to avoid danger and remain okay, safe, alive.” The need to earn belies a belief in lack.

As with all bad-feeling thoughts, these are not true. We are not threatened as we fear and we do not need to “earn” anything. We can set goals and seek desired results, for sure. We can navigate by curiosity. We can give and receive. We can spend time. We can engage others. We can imagine, create, and have fun and meaning via our SweetSpots.

And money and any other desired things will be the byproducts.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Let’s set aside those deep, unhelpful thoughts and replace them with a sense of allowing.

 

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Why We Can’t Hold On To Success

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Once we get plugged in, raise our buzz, and are feeling confident, we feel so great and are enjoying the results so much that we may be tempted to hold on to this state. But we can’t.

It’s not because “there are ups and downs in life,” “we have to accept the bad with the good,” or “into every life some rain must fall.” It’s because any attempt to hold on to something good comes from a thought about how these good-feeling states are scarce, difficult to achieve, or somehow not a natural part of our lives. That thought gives way to us dropping out of that state.

The trick is not to hold on but to recognize as quickly as possible whenever we have a low buzz, are not plugged in, or are feeling unsure. And then we use any of our tools to get back just as quickly.

Over time, we stay longer and longer. Doing so, we train ourselves to know that these good-feeling states and the good results they sponsor are plentiful, easy to come by, and a natural part of who we are.

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Bonus points today if you can help someone else use this idea, too.

How You Must Change When Leading, Selling, and Influencing

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Leading, selling, and influencing are basically the same noble activity: having all who matter think and act in ways that benefit all who matter: win-win-win-win-etc.

Of course, “all who matter” includes you. You are included amongst the winners. And your thinking and actions must be included, too. As a leader, seller, and influencer, allow your thinking and actions to change in ways that benefit all who matter.

In your corner,

Mike

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Each Little Thing

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Moment by moment, every chance we get, we can catch ourselves feeling bad and find a way to raise our buzz, to feel good. With each little thing–remaining calm despite traffic on the highway, letting go thoughts about how another person annoys us, breathing deeply to release tension, setting aside ideas about what’s wrong with this or that–we prepare ourselves to get the big and important things we desire in our lives.

Feeling good, now?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We can tell if we have not been catching these little things because the big and important things seem to remain out of reach.

 

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How To Apply The Right Thinking At The Right Time

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Critical thinking is important. And it is horrible if we apply it while we are creating a mission, strategy, or goals. Critical thinking here derails the considerations, explorations, and dreaming.

The creative thinking we use build strategies etc. is wonderful. And it, too, is rotten if we apply it when we are meant to be implementing and executing. Creative thinking here derails the detailed planning, problem solving, and progress.

Apply the right thinking at the right time. Pro tip: decide ahead of time the purpose of each meeting: strategy or implementation. In strategy meetings, focus on answering the questions, “What is true now?”, “What do we want to be true?”, and “Why?”. In implementation meetings, focus on answering the questions, “Who?”, “How?”, and “When?”. In each type of meeting, capture the thoughts of the other type for the next appropriate meeting where they will be welcome and useful.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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How to Think About Something You’ve Always Wanted

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We know that everything begins with a thought. We get that our thoughts have that weird way of greasing the skids, preparing the soil, or setting the stage for what we want. But what about something we have wanted for a long time? Something that remains stubbornly out of reach?

Well, there is a difference between longing for something that never seems to arrive and expecting something to arrive even when the evidence appears to point in the opposite direction, if you get my meaning.

A big difference.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Hint: we can feel the difference. One feels bad and the other feels good.

PPS: Esoteric? Perhaps. But do you dare try it?

 

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What Are You Saying?

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If you say that your endeavor won’t succeed, it won’t. If you say, “I hope it succeeds but really fear it won’t,” it won’t. If you say, “I would want this to succeed but I can’t see how it could,” it won’t.

On the other hand, you could say, “I am excited about this project. When I imagine it completed, it feels good. The next step is right there and it is simple,.” Saying those things, would you be more or less open to the opportunities that appear? Would you be more or less influential with the people who can help you help you?

Right.

So, what are you saying?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Large, Nutty, Impossible Goals

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“I want to make an extra $100,000 this year.” “I am going to run an ultra marathon.” “I am going to lose 50 pounds and keep the weight off.” “We are going to triple our sales.” “I am going to get a meaningful, rewarding job that lets me balance my life and still pays well.”

What happens when we consider very large goals? Frequently, we back away. They seem too impossible. “That’s nutty. I do not want to push as hard as I would need to in order to hit this goal. No, thanks.”

Yet the apparent impossibility is the very thing that makes large goals possible.

Consider the large goal of earning much more money. From a certain perspective, making and extra $100,000 or even $1,000,000 per year is easier that making an extra $1,000 per year. How so? Because you can make and extra $1,000 by doing a bit more of what you do now. Making an extra $10,000 might mean pressing even harder. But I don’t think anyone can push so hard that they can make an extra hundred grand or mil. No, jumps of that scale demand you think differently.

Unable to rely on our old ways, new ways become the solution. New ways start with new thoughts. “If I were to make an extra $100,000 this year, what would I have to believe, think, or do to make that happen?” These thoughts are only different, not difficult, to think.

What might be your large, nutty, “impossible” goal?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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What Buddha Said

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Here’s an interesting quotation:

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” – Gautama Siddharta

What’s relevant is that many of the other sages have also said basically the same thing. Pause now and imagine the implications should this statement be true, really-really-true.

What would you like to become? Think that.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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