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Sure you can worry, complain, or get angry about another person’s decisions, behaviors, or attitude. You can go ahead and demand, plead, negotiate, attack, capitulate, cajole, and tolerate.
You will get better results if you see past all that and focus on their innate talents, potential, and goodness.
And you will be one heck of a leader if you can see and believe in all that good stuff within others even more than they themselves do.
In your corner,
PS: Remember how it feels when someone recognizes all your juicy goodness? Pass it on.
PPS: This is not to say that you don’t hold people accountable, give and request respect, set boundaries, or call them on stuff. Heavens, no.
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Ever get the feeling that you are an impostor? You put on a calm game face for others but inside you fear that you do not have what it takes to succeed and that you’ll be found out. You imagine all the bad things that would happen to you “if they find out how unskilled you really are”: being ridiculed, rejected, or fired.
You can relax: it’s a common situation for otherwise supremely competent people. And it’s a fixable one. Here are the 3 steps.
First, notice what’s going on. When you are feeling like an impostor, you are focused on yourself, your ostensible lack of important talents, and your fears about what might go wrong. You divert all that mental energy away from applying your (very real) talents to the work at hand. A bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy, see?
Second, the fix is to do what Mark Silver calls turning the camera. You’ve had the camera (your attention) turned toward yourself. Turn the camera, instead, to focus on the people around you, their needs, wants, and desires. Ask yourself, “How can I help them hit a home run?” It will be a win for you, too: turning the camera is wonderfully freeing.
Third, the very fact that you are reading this and breathing means that you have important talents. And chances are you are undervaluing yours. With the camera turned toward others’ situations, see what needs to be done. Then do whatever you can to help.
What you have to offer is unique to you and sorely needed in our world. If you can set aside your sense of being an impostor, you can let these talents shine and do their work. And then they will find out…how very helpful, capable, and all-around-valuable you are.
In your corner,
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What does it take to have meaningful, fulfilling work?
Many experts say you must know and follow your passion. Yes. Passion is important. But, as you probably suspect, it is not enough.
Here’s what you really need. Your ideal work must
- Use your Talents What are you really good at?
- Engage your Passions What drives, motivates, or excites you?
- Meet your needs, wants, and desires. What do you need in order to feel good, whole?
- Contribute to satisfying other people’s needs, wants, and desires that you find interesting.
The intersection of these four areas is called your SweetSpot™. When you work in your SweetSpot, you have the meaning, clarity, and impact you want. When you are outside your SweetSpot, you struggle more.
How close are you to your SweetSpot? How close do you want to be?
To your continued success,
P.S. Organizations have SweetSpots, too. How close is your organization to its SweetSpot?