Easy Does It

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That’s it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Hard doesn’t do it. Nor does nose-to-the-grindstone. Struggle certainly doesn’t do it. Be easy. Trust. Drop worries about the future or regrets about the past; we have no power then. All our power is here, now. At ease, we are open to better solutions, new ideas, and support from others who want to participate when we’re leading with ease. Just watch your productivity soar. Easy certainly does it.

PPS: Yes, it does. Yes, it does. Yes, it does infinity.

PPPS: Give it a try; you’ll see.

 

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Swim With  

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A man I met at a swim meet recently told me something enlightening. Whenever growing swimmers plateau in their performance–unable to go faster in race after race despite the effort–they are fighting the water. Their way of swimming pushes hard against the water and the water always wins.

Same for us.

As leaders who want to grow themselves and their organizations, we get stuck because we are pushing hard against the world and wearing ourselves out with all the effort. Trying to make things happen, trying to get people to do stuff, trying to create joy through outcomes rather than the other way around are how we fight against.

Swimmers get past their plateaus by working with the water not against it. They practice minor adjustments and watch their race times improve. We and our organizations get past frustrating blocks by practicing minor adjustments that have us working with not against.

We seek to understand others and invite them to play win-win. We create joy first and watch the outcomes follow. And we build a mental / emotional environment (essentially believing in others’ abilities and our success before the evidence appears) where great stuff happens with ease.

So much better, yes?

 

In your corner ,

Mike

 

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How to Help When Team Members Struggle

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We all struggle from time to time for all sorts of reasons. Though most leaders aren’t trained as therapists, we are all very well trained as humans. Privately, matter-of-factly remarking to a team member that they seem to be struggling then listening without trying to fix or solve is a very good start.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Success Is a Way, Not a Goal

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The sages tell us to have goals but not attach to them. They warn us that having too much focus on our goals comes from some subtle belief that achieving goals is difficult or impossible. That subtle belief promotes a struggle-laced busyness which makes goals difficult or impossible to achieve. But what to do instead?

People who are successful have learned that success is a way, not a goal. They achieve goals by being successful. That is they set clear and compelling goals, they choose to go win-win-or-don’t-play with everyone, they maintain a high-buzz attitude, and they deftly select the best things to get done. They don’t stress or struggle. And their goals mostly come to fruition.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: If you catch yourself thinking something like, “When I have this, then I’ll be successful” or “I need that to be successful, happy, free, etc.,” think again.

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The Oddest Career and Marketing Secret

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The secret is that the people we can help the most and best are the ones who struggle with the same things we struggle with.

Wha..?!

It’s true. We really understand the things we’ve been wrestling with. We learn as we struggle with anything like respect, money, connection, leadership, followership, self-worth, power, intelligence, happiness, love, safety, judgmentalism, balance, influence, communication, beauty, calm, openness, effectiveness, chaos, understanding, acceptance, justice, emotion, health, creativity, groundedness, belonging, etc. Though we may think we are not qualified, who better than us to assist those people or organizations working on the same issue(s) we are working on?

There’s no need to master anything first. Just dive in. Lend your talents to people struggling with whatever you struggle with. The alignment will be very fruitful, meaningful, and rewarding.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Vigilant Buzz Raising

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Wherever we continue to struggle with something, we will find a long history of our bad-feeling thinking about that something. This thinking will often be habitual; we would hardly notice we are thinking it. And we may even think it’s normal to have these bad-feeling thoughts about this issue.

Bad feelings tell us we are focused on something we don’t want. And, habitually stuck with these bad-feeling thoughts, we tend to apply the same old solutions, recreate the same old issues, and get the same old results again and again.

The fix is simple. We can break out of the old, habitual, bad-feeling thinking with vigilant buzz raising. We can continuously, consciously raise our buzz. That is, we commit to always noticing the old, bad-feeling thinking and to then finding good-feeling thoughts to think about this topic. When we do, we free ourselves up to notice and take advantage of new solutions that will work and that we couldn’t see before.

And we get to celebrate the better results that follow.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Vigilance helps because our old thinking is subtle and habitual. Without vigilance, we will fall back to the old, more familiar ways.

PPS: The first step is catching the physical signals that tell us we are thinking something that no longer works for us.

 

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Excuse This Interruption

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We interrupt your work day to bring you this special message.

All that stress you’re running and all those tasks you’re doing right now? How’s that feeling? Right. It is awful. And how effective are you? Not as effective as you could be without the stress, yes?

So, pause. Take this moment to just feel good. If you need to, go update your lists of not to dos. Then act as you, by feeling good, are now inspired.

We return you to your regularly scheduled work day.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Nowhere is it written that we should stress and strain to be effective and succeed. Nope, nowhere.

 

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Why We Are Awful at Picking What To Do Next

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Most days we waste a whack of time and energy. We struggle to figure out–and do first–the most important, urgent, due, or priority tasks. We really can’t see, amongst all the competing tasks, which are the most due-urgent-important. Attempts to rank tasks usually backfire. That calculus is too difficult. And we will always question if we shouldn’t be working on something else now.

What would happen if, instead of choosing the most urgent, the most important, the most overdue, the highest priority task, or the task we most “should” do,  we always selected the best-feeling task to do next?

Would we get into trouble? Would there be chaos? Panic in the streets? Dogs and cats living together!?

Hardly.

If we maintain a fairly current list of all the things we could do, then choose from that list the next best-feeling task, we will feel great, be quite productive, and take care of the important, urgent, due, and priority. You see, the best-feeling tasks include the truly important, urgent, due, and priority ones. No calculus needed.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Clearing the Three Roadblocks to Work-Life Balance

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Here are three work-life balance roadblocks and ways to clear them:

  1. We see “work” as something we struggle through. We see the grind, the guilt about tasks not yet done, the politics, the commute, the conditions, and everything we “have to do.” Instead, let’s choose to work from within our SweetSpots. Things happen with more ease when we are doing whatever is most compelling, rewarding, and meaningful to us.
  2. We don’t know what we mean when we say, “life.” What, exactly, do we want to balance with “work”? Typically, we think of the things we or others say we should do: go to the gym, be home on time to make dinner, get enough quality time alone or with the family, etc. “Shoulds” always feel bad. And these often unexamined ideas can be too rigid or too vague. Instead, let’s make specific, realistic commitments to our relationships with our bodies, homes, partners, families, etc. “I am committed to a strong, healthy body. And to a family life where we all feel supported in our goals and enjoying each others’ company.” With this clarity, we can make clearer choices day-to-day about what we will focus upon and do next.
  3. We treat “balance” as an adjective: Balance is something we do, not something we are. If we could ever be balanced, we and life would instantly conjure something new to do and upset the balance.  Instead, let’s think about balance as a verb. “Today, based on my commitments, I will balance by choosing what I will focus on from among everything I could focus on. I will continue to balance and re-balance today despite any curve balls thrown my way. I will choose again tomorrow.”

No struggle, no shoulds; balance.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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What Vigilance Leads to Success

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How are you feeling?

Our sense of well-being, of feeling good is critical to our success. When we feel bad, the solutions we most need escape us. Our own habits of thought (and subsequent habits of behavior) plus the evidence we see all around us encourage us to struggle, to focus on what’s wrong, and then to do more and more in an attempt to feel better. When, instead, we first choose to feel good–despite the habits and evidence–then act on whatever is best at the moment, the struggle melts away and success becomes simple.

Because all that habit and evidence make it is so easy to slip into struggle, let’s adopt a vigilance toward feeling good. Let’s insist that we catch ourselves feeling down. (We will feel it in our bodies first, before we can describe what we are thinking or why.) Let’s insist that we use whatever methods (and here) we can to feel good before we act.

And let’s insist we keep insisting, even when we have forgotten and fallen back into struggle.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Let’s start today. Instead of diving into the rest of our inboxes and wondering how we’re going to get is all done, let’s pause to feel good. We can find something to appreciate, flip a negative thought, or take three deep breaths. Whatever works. Then we can return to our regularly scheduled work and pick the best thing to be working on now. Ahhh. The sweet feeling of success.

 

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