Why We Should Resist Solving Their Problems

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When people are buzzing low, they will almost always present us with problems and complaints. If we’re not careful, we’ll get drawn into the trap of trying to solve or resolve these for them. 

Why is this a trap? Because their low buzz can easily push down our buzz. They feel bad. We react. Then we struggle to improve things from a lower buzz. This is very hard to do. And if we manage it, they’ll just come back next time with another low-buzz problem.

Instead, let’s raise our buzz around them. Without trying, they will find it much easier to start buzzing higher themselves. Then their solutions and resolutions become easy.


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Solutions Simply Emerge

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Many of the solutions we want and need are only available when we pause, notice, set aside judgment, and wait. Guided by curiosity (“I wonder how it will work out.”) and not at all worried about our ego, the formerly invisible solutions emerge and things get easier.

The only hard part is remembering to pause, notice, and wait.

The solutions are there, waiting.


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We Need New Truth

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Truth is what we say it is.

We leaders need this newer definition of truth. The old way is ruining things.

Thinking of truth in the traditional way–that is, as an absolute–always gets us into trouble. Old-style truth has us looking for the “right” answer instead of looking for the best answer. It pits people against one another instead of inviting them to find the superior solutions that come only in collaboration. We see everywhere the dysfunction caused by our addiction to old truth: in governments, among nations and communities, in our businesses, at home, and (importantly) within ourselves.

Depending on how you take it, this new statement about truth is either a threat or a gift. It implies that disagreement–even deep disagreement–is natural and that discussion is necessary. But it also promises dramatic solutions and benefits. We can start by simply asking others to say aloud what’s important to them.

More deeply, this newer version of truth shows us that we are our own jailers and emancipators. What we say is true about ourselves or the world binds us or sets us free. We can start applying this new version of truth to our lives by simply stating out loud what we want.


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PS: I am not saying what’s true or false. I am asking us to open our definition of what it means for something to be true.


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