Happiness Is…

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Despite what we may sometimes wish, happiness does not come from wiping out our problems.

We can’t wipe them out. Like ocean waves, life is full of problems and solutions that never stop coming. We become unhappy when we see ourselves battered by these waves and needing to struggle for solutions.

But we can change our perspective. We become happy when we see ourselves surfing atop the waves, relishing them, being quietly powerful, and watching the problems getting solved.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: From atop the waves, problems become much less big and important. Often they will sort themselves out with relatively little effort from us. Good reasons to be atop the waves, yes? How to get there? By raising our buzz, of course.

 

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What Do We Do When Something Goes Wrong? 

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If we want to forever be in charge of fixing the problems, then we should give lectures, orders, and consequences.

If we want others to take it on, then we should should call out the deviations from goals and coach people to solve the situations themselves.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: This is easy to forget. But we really don’t want to be in charge of all that stuff, ya?

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Conundrum

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At the bottom of every problem there is at least one emotion. We are uncomfortable (even fearful) approaching and acknowledging such emotions in ourselves and in others. Yet the problem will persist until we do.

This conundrum costs us dearly in energy wasted trying not to feel the emotions, in unresolved problems lingering, and in problems recurring in different places, with different people, or in different forms.

Happily, these emotions are paper tigers. With a touch of courage, we can lead ourselves and others to find and feel these emotions. This gives us the new perspectives we need to unlock solutions to the problem. We’ll then laugh in wonder at how we could have ever been so stuck in the first place.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: If you were tempted to skip reading this post, you got a glimpse of the discomfort that unwittingly maintains this conundrum.

 

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Clear

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Get clear on the what and the why. The how, who, and when will become silly simple. Any focus on the who, how, and when without really knowing the what and the why explains most of the resistance, pain, or frustration we experience.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Yes. Resistance, pain, and frustration are strong indicators. See them and you’ll likely see a lack of (shared) clarity about the what and the why.

PPS: Strategy then tactics. Tactics isolated from strategy (esp. the “why”) is a recipe for disaster.

PPPS: Yes, we still have to follow through. But follow-through happens easily-happily-freely once we have the what and the why plus the who, how, and when.

 

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Overwhelming Good

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A very small proportion of happenings at work, home, and around the world are negative. But it seems that the negative things capture our attention. That is odd because we are doing mostly fine. Perhaps the positive things happen so frequently that we hardly notice them.

Don’t let people (particularly pundits, politicians, and other predators) dial up the doom or fan the fears. Sure, the problems we face are real. We can solve them, together. And maybe we can start to notice the overwhelming good that happens to all of us all the time.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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four leaf clover

The Four Things We Must Address to Solve Any Problem at Work

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We are trained to look for and valued as leaders for finding the best solution to any given problem. But this focus gets us into trouble every time.

That’s because every significant problem at work has four dimensions.  Problems arise from and persist due to…

  • What (or Purpose): a lack of a clear, commonly understood, and compelling goal or reason,
  • We (or People): …one or more people or groups believing they are or will be losing out to others,
  • Can (or Perspective): …a negative or low-buzz culture or attitude, and
  • Do (or Process): …haphazard accomplishment of work, lack of flow, lack of follow-through, incomplete systems, or role confusion.

Our standard solutions usually address only one or two of these dimensions. Each of us has a bias toward one of them; we will want to use that hammer for all those nails, every time. And we will argue passionately with each other about the best solution because we are each focusing on a different dimension.

Problems will stubbornly persist until we have tacked all four dimensions. When we address the purpose, people, perspective, and process parts of the problem, we will solve it quickly and completely.

 

In your corner,

Mike
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the camera

Turn the Camera

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Most organizations spend untold time and money explaining what they (and their products and services) do and why they are so good. Look at their websites to see that they have the camera firmly turned at themselves.

Most prospective clients, on the other hand, focus on the the results they want and the obstacles they face.

Doesn’t it make sense, then, to spend time and money understanding what clients want and face? Then we can show how what we do would help.

Turn the camera.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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derp

Why We Cannot Afford to Focus on Bad Things

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Here’s another habit we all seem to have inherited: focusing on bad things and trying to prevent from happening. Like other inherited habits, this one costs us: we waste too much time, energy, and effort on it.

First, we anticipate a bad thing happening (e.g. a lost sale, a loss of prestige, position, or money, a rejection, a tough conversation, a criticism). We fret about what this would mean and what else would go wrong if this bad thing happened. Then we think–in tangents and circles–of ways to make the world (and others) conform so that we don’t have to experience this bad thing. We work hard at this because we don’t even want to feel the fear of these things–they feel very bad–let alone experience the things themselves.

But we cannot control the world. Not with that low-buzz thinking.

We can, though, control our reactions. When we anticipate something bad–instead of focusing on the bad and the fear–we can choose to raise our buzz, to feel good.

Then, unusually quickly and without all that wasted energy, workable solutions will appear.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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