At Moments Like These

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Complaining about, fearing, or fighting something that we don’t like is the painful, slow way. Such focus only strengthens it.

Focusing on what we do like is similar. The more attention we give, the more it will grow.

As counterintuitive as it seems, our best way is to leave alone what we don’t like, to refuse to give it our energy, to take no notice, to render it irrelevant. And then to dedicate ourselves to building more and more of what we do want.

Powerful? Yes, we are.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Tip: shut off Constantly Negative News (CNN) and the like. Find and engage with, instead, people who are already building something wonderful in the community, city, market, country, or world.

 

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Swayed By Reality

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The sages tell us that the formula for creating any outcome is belief->actions->results. This is a leverage formula. We leverage action into results because we know that taking concerted action generates more results than our default, reactive action.

We usually forget the first, more powerful part of the formula. Focused belief generates better actions (and therefore much better results) than our default, habitual beliefs.

Here’s an example. Let’s say that we want to convince someone to change a behavior and that this person has resisted changing in the past. In our habitual beliefs, we may think of this person as hard to deal with, lazy, obstructive, or untalented.

But what if we changed our belief?

Which belief would better support our goal of getting them to change: that they are hard to deal with, for instance, or easy to deal with?

“Ah,” you argue, “you are ignoring reality. What if they really are hard to deal with?”

But that’s the power of this formula. Thinking that they are what we have thought they are leaves little room for something to shift. Choosing to believe something new about them (despite what we have been believing and calling reality) blasts open the door to different actions and results.

The trick is not to be swayed by “reality.”

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Of course, this trick works for anything we want, not just in getting others to change.

PPS: A great way to know when an old belief is getting in the way is that it feels bad. Let a bad feeling tell you it’s time to choose a new belief.

 

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Feeling Justified?

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We might feel justified for thinking that we are small, low-power players who cannot possibly change the things we care about.

But we’d be wrong.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Yes, this applies to you. Yes, today.

PPS: Hint: do not fight anything or anyone. Instead, love and lead by the example you want to see more of.

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The Heart of Leadership: Present and Powerful

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Our power is in the present. (How can it be otherwise?) When we are present–especially in interactions with others–we choose to influence where we can, to control what we can (i.e. our own responses), and to handle whatever actually happens rather that what we fear might happen. When we are not present, we are running old programs to avoid–among other things–being obstructed, rejected, hurt, or criticized. Not being present, we think that our best path is to make things happen, to bluster, or to avoid.

A bit of self trust and a commitment to win-win are two necessary and healthy prerequisites. With them, we can be present and powerful for any important conversation, meeting, or event. And things generally will turn out very well.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Nothing Is As Powerful As…

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They say that nothing is as powerful as an idea whose time has come. Actually, there is one thing more powerful: a person who has committed herself or himself to a clear, compelling outcome. Committed means, “This will happen. It won’t happen through bull-headedness, force,  or hope. There may be obstacles but no excuses. I will simply see to it, seeing it through until it’s done.” This tends to work really well for things we want.

What do you want, dear leader?

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Funny, the original quote is, “On résiste à l’invasion des armées; on ne résiste pas à l’invasion des idées.” – Victor Hugo. “We can resist army invasions but not idea invasions.”

 

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Present Present

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Presence is simply staying focused on what’s happening now instead of worrying about the future, regretting the past, defending ourselves (“Here’s why I am justified…”), or attacking others (“I am so right and you/they are not”).

There is a gift inside every moment. We miss the gift when we are too busy worrying, regretting, defending, or attacking. The gift is knowing that we are now–in this very moment–safe, that now we can handle anything, and that we now respond adeptly to whatever does show up.  A much better way to be, yes?

Being present, we get the present.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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What Power Is and Who Has It

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Power is presence. It is the ability to stand calmly in front of any obstacle and, without trying, have it ease or melt away. Anything else–wishing, pushing, guiting, tricking, attacking, criticizing, fighting, complaining–is mere force.

If we pause and look, we will see we all have the potential to be very powerful.

When you get this and help us get it, we can handle anything, good leader.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Delicious

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The sages tell us that work and life-in-general get easier and easier as we learn to be more and more present, aligned, and quietly powerful. In this state, we are less likely to see life as something to win or to protect ourselves from. And we then honestly agree with the sages when they say that life is delicious.

Yum!

 

In your corner,

Mike

The First Step to Being Powerful in Life and Leadership

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To be powerful, our first step is learn to tell it apart from force. The difference is difficult to describe but easy to see. We can see it here:

Force is loud, power is always quiet.

Force damages, power aligns.

Force creates losers, power creates only winners.

Force causes mistakes, power corrects them.

Force drains us, power uplifts us.

It’s actually force that does the corrupting.

Force looks quick and inexpensive; it is actually wasteful and costly. Power is efficient.

Force tries to masquerade as power. It arises when we feel powerless or feel the fear of powerlessness.

Force fades, power endures.

Once we can tell power from force, we can build trust, know that we can handle anything, and navigate by curiosity. We can also align ourselves and others with compelling goals, play for win-win or choose not to play, and nurture just the right quantity and scope of systems to support our goals.

Be powerful, good leader.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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