At Moments Like These

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Complaining about, fearing, or fighting something that we don’t like is the painful, slow way. Such focus only strengthens it.

Focusing on what we do like is similar. The more attention we give, the more it will grow.

As counterintuitive as it seems, our best way is to leave alone what we don’t like, to refuse to give it our energy, to take no notice, to render it irrelevant. And then to dedicate ourselves to building more and more of what we do want.

Powerful? Yes, we are.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Tip: shut off Constantly Negative News (CNN) and the like. Find and engage with, instead, people who are already building something wonderful in the community, city, market, country, or world.

 

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Which is Better: Avoid or Enjoy?

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There is a vast difference between seeking positive and avoiding negative. It is very difficult to generate positive by avoiding negative. We all want and deserve positive. Avoiding negative just can’t cut it anymore.

At work and in life, set aside what you wish to avoid and tell me what you want to enjoy.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Try this shift as often as you notice you’re focused on the negative. Hint: negative feel bad.

PPS: What is positive and negative can shift. Use your feelings to discern.

 

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Overwhelming Good

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A very small proportion of happenings at work, home, and around the world are negative. But it seems that the negative things capture our attention. That is odd because we are doing mostly fine. Perhaps the positive things happen so frequently that we hardly notice them.

Don’t let people (particularly pundits, politicians, and other predators) dial up the doom or fan the fears. Sure, the problems we face are real. We can solve them, together. And maybe we can start to notice the overwhelming good that happens to all of us all the time.

 

In your corner,

Mike

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It’s like turning your head

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Evolutionary neurologists have a good explanation for our habit of focusing mostly on the negative, the problems, what is wrong. They explain how we inherited our vigilance from distant ancestors who needed to be on guard against lion attacks.

We focus our attention today on the negative because we believe, somehow,  that this is the way we, like our ancestors, stay alive. It’s hardwired, they say, down in the primal parts of our brains.

Of course, no lions are chasing us. And as my friend Sally likes to say, “If I am neither on fire nor in the Amazon, then I am fine.”

Despite any primordial habit we may have picked up, choosing to focus on the positive, on the appreciated, on all that is working is as easy as turning our head to look at it.

In your corner,

Mike

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News Diet

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Murder, conflict, politics, woe.

Sigh.

Whether we hear it, watch it, or read it, our daily dose of news stories feels bad, triggers defensiveness, and has us missing all the good that happens and that could happen.

Try a news diet. Shut off the radio, put down the paper, change the channel, close that browser tab. Notice how much better you feel after just a day.

Don’t worry about staying on top of things. If something dramatically important happens that needs your attention, someone will tell you. And, having not drained your batteries listening to the news, you will be in a much better state to help if you are needed.

In your corner,

Mike

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Three Ways of Looking at it All

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There are generally three ways to look at things. And people predominately stick with the one way they are used to.

  1. Things are bad. There’s too much to do. We are powerless or nearly so.
  2. Everything is fine! Look on the bright side. We just gotta keep on smiling.
  3. There is a lot that is good. And some things that are bad. Whatever is bad, we can sooner or later fix.

Guess which one I recommend you adopt?

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

PS: Right! Wow. Good guess.

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