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The Shortest Distance

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We are here, we need to be there, and we need to take these steps to get there. It’s the straight line, the shortest distance. Yet other people not only can’t see it, they get in the way. They don’t do their part. They engage in politics, passive or aggressive resistance, and interference. Why can’t they see it? Why do they insist on making us take the long-way around?

Because what we see as obvious they see as a threat. Our plans conflict with their sense of themselves and with their opinions, beliefs, values, thoughts, egos, and emotions. They feel challenged, rejected, unsafe, or wrong. So they react, often unconsciously. And the path that seemed the shortest distance ends up taking way too long and costing way too much.

The path that seemed the longest–understanding what would be a win for each other then creating together a real win-win solution–is really the shortest distance between here and there.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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How and Why to Get Coaching for Leaders

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We leaders (with or without title) have some significant and often unmet needs. We need to know we are making good decisions. We want to work through our thoughts and options. We need an unbiased sounding board. In other words, we need a coach. Without this support, we can feel a little or a lot isolated and unsure.

It is not easy get this type of support. Most of the people around us–employees, bosses, peers, friends, and family members–either have vested interests in what we decide or just aren’t familiar enough with our situation.

With a bit of effort, we can get the coaching we want. Here are three ways. First, we can hire a coach. Good coaches are great thinking partners. Second, we can cultivate a coaching relationship with those around us who have the talent and who can see then set aside their biases. Third, we can start of join a group of like-minded leaders from outside our organization. Sometimes called a mastermind, this group offers listening and coaching to all members.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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How to be Chosen

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We sometimes get trapped thinking that in order to be the one chosen (for the job or by the client), we need to be seen as being smart, hip, credentialed, correct, professional, hungry, not too cheap, sophisticated, anointed, rich, decorated, not too expensive, on trend, published, number one, the hottest new thing, well established, the known brand, experienced, fresh, and first.

Whoa, we better get busy on all that, ya?

Nah.

To be the ones who get chosen, we are the ones who engage their passions, bring their talents, play for win-win, and hear what those who would choose us really need. We are the ones who are confident that we can help and who deliver.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Why Don’t People Listen?

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Why don’t people listen? Oh, that’s easy:

  • They start defending against what we say–often before we speak–based on how we say it,
  • We tend to frame our messages in terms of what’s important to us: they listen in terms of what’s important to them,
  • We speak past each other instead of taking time to understand, and
  • We argue over our stands instead of collaborating to meet our collected desired outcomes.

The good news, of course, is that when you flex to meet their style, recast your message to appeal to what they think is important, listen to clarify and ask them to do the same, and work for win-win, they will listen. A lot.

Seems like a lot of work, ya? Maybe. But it’s a heck of a lot less effort than the repeated requests, defensiveness, aggression, rework, politics, lost opportunities, and hard feelings you have to deal with otherwise.

 

In your corner,

Mike