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Who We Are Yields Concrete Business Results

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We try to define who we are by our roles, titles, duties, traits, accomplishments, and various group memberships. Though these are completely inadequate substitutions, we cling to them and will fight to defend them. Clinging and fighting leads to uncertainty, misery, and politics. They thus waste our time and energy. This form of identity detracts from results.

But there’s another way of understanding identity. We can recall that who we are is ineffable. Like the taste of a strawberry, no words can accurately describe who we are but we can completely sense it and know it.

We leaders get to seek, see, and encourage this sense in others. We can use words. For example, “We are sparks, nay, bolts of endless awareness, attention, discernment, and creativity. Remember?” More powerfully (and potentially less confusingly) we can communicate it with our quiet intention and caring.

We then invite them to play out this sense of who they are on the stage of our common, compelling, concrete work goals. And, as they do, we benefit from great business results and from getting to see and know who we are.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Who Do You Say You Are?

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The thoughts that most determine our success are the ones about who we think we are. If we find ourselves stuck, it’s likely because we somehow think we are the kind of people to get stuck here. To find ourselves unstuck, we simply imagine ourselves to be the kind of person who naturally has the kind of success we are after.

Odd but true.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Try saying out loud, “I am the leader who naturally has the kind of success I want and I know what success I want.” If it feels good to say, keep saying it. If it feels bad, try laddering up to it.

 

 

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Who is Asking?

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We describe ourselves by our roles. We think we are our thoughts and emotions. We believe we are our histories. We hold tight to these proxies of identity out of fear: who are we if we are not what we do, think, or feel?

A very good question, that. Who are we, really? The better we can answer this question, the less energy would we waste trying to make up for not knowing. Though your mileage may vary, success becomes easier for people who know the answer to this question.

I don’t think we can answer the question here. In fact, I am pretty sure no words would do justice. But I can give you a solid clue to learning who you really are.

Just answer this: “Who is asking the question, ‘Who am I?‘ ?”

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

PS: Did you see it?

PPS: Yes, today’s note goes just a bit deeper than usual.

PPPS: In this case, if your head is spinning, you are on the right track.

 

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Grander, Kinder, Richer, Happier

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Someone recently asked, “What is the most difficult thing for a person to change?” I said, “The hardest thing for a person to change is his or her belief about who he or she is.”

We usually see ourselves as doing pretty well in some areas of our lives. And in other areas, we limit ourselves. We think we are quite small in these areas or we pretend we are big for fear we may be quite small.

Try imagining, instead, that you are grander, kinder, calmer, smarter, richer, better-looking, happier, and healthier than you think you are now. Imaging that you have all the time and friends and resources you would ever need. Imagine that life is an exciting adventure.

How did that feel?

However long you can maintain those thoughts grand will tell you how tightly you hold to not-so-helpful beliefs about who you are. How good it felt to imagine yourself as grander should give you all the energy you need to change those beliefs.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

PS: What if I insisted you were smarter, happier, etc. than you thought you were? OK, then, I insist.

 

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