The Hardest Part Is Remembering To Be It

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Why do you do what you do? Most of us will search but not have a solid answer for this. That is, not until we get to the very bottom of it, to what we all want.

Ultimately we all want to be free, happy, and growing. So we dedicate our time and energy to doing things at work and home to get ourselves there.

Yet freedom, happiness, and growth are our birthright. Action, time, and energy can’t bring us what we already are. But our attitudes or buzz can do a fine job of separating us from those innate qualities. Feeling bad, we dedicate time and energy to dive into action. We think it will help and it can’t.

To re-grant ourselves freedom, happiness, and growth, we need only get good at raising our buzz.

The hardest part is remembering to be it. When we do, we and the people we lead will benefit.


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PS: Give yourself freedom, happiness, and growth. (Hint: it’s easy because it’s already there.)


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The Formula for Happiness is Not What You Think It Is

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We think, perhaps, that the formula for happiness at work and home is doing stuff. We lead, hire, fire, sell, study, plan, analyze, account, go to dinner, ski, sing, play video games, have an argument, make up, et cetera and so forth, because we believe we will be happier by doing so.

Or we think the formula is having stuff. We seek rewards, recognition, possessions, and experiences for the same reason: to be happy.

But no amount of activity or seeking will ever bring us happiness. Happiness comes from being happy. (No. I am not trying to be cheeky.)

Luckily, there’s a formula for being happy: From wherever you are, find a way to feel a little bit better. Repeat until happy.


In your corner,


PS: It only sounds trite and trivial until you try it.


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Happiness is...

Happiness Is…

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Happiness is something we can be or not be at this moment. We create happiness. We can choose to feel good now, regardless of circumstances, or not. No amount of doing, sacrificing, or plotting can deliver the happiness we seek. No amount of moaning, worrying, or hating will help either.

As we start this week, let’s not rush headlong. Let’s not moan about, worry about, or hate Mondays and the things we face this week. Instead, let’s pause, raise our buzz, then jump in.

Happy Monday!


In your corner,


PS: And, yes, I think happiness is also a warm puppy. So I’ve read. When I was a bit younger.

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What’s Your Choice?

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Happiness, for most of us, is a choice. Reality is not. It seems, though, that choosing to be happy ends up changing the reality that we keep track
of.  — Seth Godin

Well said. We can choose to struggle against the reality we have seen or to adjust our sights and select a better reality. Raising our buzz and choosing to be happy gives us access to the ideas, people, and solutions that will change our reality for the better.

What’s your choice?


In your corner,


PS: By the way, whatever we choose has a tendency to move our teams, clients, and families in the same direction.


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There is Only One Reason Why

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What do you most want right now?

And why do you want it?

And why is that?

And why is that?

(et cetera)


If we keep asking, “Why?,” we will eventually land on, “Because I want to feel happy.” Whatever we want, we want it so that we can feel happy. Beyond this, there seem to be no more answers to the question, “And why is that?”

Yet there is a shortcut: we can start feeling happy right now, before we get what we want.

Cool, ain’t it? Works a charm, every time.


In your corner,


PS: This does not at all mean that we should stop wanting what we want. Wanting is the great inspiration for life and, paradoxically, happiness.

PPS: If you tend to associate wanting with sadness, try the shortcut.

PPPS: When we use the shortcut, what we want has a freaky way of showing up faster than we imagined it was possible.

PPPPS: Makes me shudder with joy just thinking about it.


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In A World…

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In a world–heck, even in an organization or family–where things are tense, chaotic, stagnant, or dim, we can lose sight of things.

Yet beyond, beneath, or behind

Left or right,
Hawk or dove,
Boss or subordinate,
Subways or streetcars,
Right or wrong,
Good or bad,
Old or new,

there are always love, growth, freedom, and happiness.

Let’s focus on having more of these for us and for the people we lead, influence, sell to, work with, and live with. The rest will work out fine.


In your corner,


PS: Start by asking, “What would make me happier, really?” Next, “What would make them happier, really?” Then, “What can we do so that we both win here?”

PPS: We may be tempted to say something like, “This is soft, touchy-feely stuff!” If we do it’s because we never have tried it. If we had, we would have seen how titanium-hard (as in results and as in effortful) this really is.


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sand pail ocean

Can This Be a Plan?

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They say that the happiest people on the planet are always saying, “Thank you.” Sometimes they say it out loud to others. Most of the time, it’s a quiet thing. They seem to appreciate everything.

I don’t think that they think that everything is rosy. Nor do they ignore or tolerate the bad stuff. Perhaps they have found a way to look past the sand pails of bad stuff–the stuff that we tend fixate on–to the oceans of good beyond. Or maybe they have learned that even the bad stuff fits into the picture just so.

Whatever their trick, they can’t seem to stop appreciating. It’s like they are in quiet, sincere love with everything.

Can we take a page from their playbook? If we do, will it help us to be better leaders, influencers, and sales people?


In your corner,


PS: Yup, yup.


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The Direction You Face Matters A Lot

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“Keep your face always toward the sunshine – and shadows will fall behind you.” – Walt Whitman

There are things that we have wanted for a while and have not yet received. They have eluded us because we’ve been facing the shadows. We seem to think that the way to happiness is to master the shadows: getting great at focusing on everything that is going wrong or that could go wrong.

The way to happiness is happiness, Sunshine. Feel good. Then Act. And happiness begets good results. No amount of worry, defensiveness, or other shadow-mastery skills can ever bring you the happiness and  results you desire.

Which way are you facing?


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Take the Time

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“You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen. Simply wait, be quiet, still, and solitary. The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked. It has no choice; it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.” –Franz Kafka

Just beyond the hurly-burly of our day-to-day lies a source of insight and inspiration. It is neither mysterious nor foreign. It is as much a part of us as our skin. We all have seen it; it is the part of us we tap when we use something like the This is Me tool. When we take the time, we can bring joy into our lives regardless of how crazy it gets.

Access this source by quietly focusing your attention and breathing, whenever.


In your corner,



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Why Wouldn’t You?

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What if every thought was a self-fulfilling prophecy? What if every notion, judgment, or idea you had would eventually become a reality?

If it was true but you were not aware of it, your life might appear sort of random. Positive, good-feeling thoughts about what you want and negative, yucky-feeling ones about what you don’t want would average out somewhere. Life might appear to hover generally around some set point of success and happiness.

If you became aware of it, you’d probably commit to moving your thoughts more and more towards the good-feeling side. And you’d soon notice that set-point of your life’s success and happiness rising.

Wouldn’t you?


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PS: And if it was not true that every thought was a self-fulfilling prophecy, would there be any harm in believing it anyway?


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