Definite, Compelling, and Grand

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If we focus on something we don’t like (especially if we go on about what’s wrong with it and why we don’t like it) then try to fix it, we’ll struggle mightily because our focus has an odd way of preserving things. (Think about the war on drugs or trying to get teammates finally do that thing they never do. Rock. Hard place.)

Upon seeing something we don’t like, we can choose to focus on something definite and compelling that we want instead. If we then set about building that, we will have a grand time because our focus has an odd way of creating things. (Think about those famously successful neighborhood revitalizations or those companies with great cultures everyone wants to emulate. They all started with a choice.)

The only trick is making sure we aren’t focusing on what we don’t want while we set out to build what we do want. This would be very frustrating because, you guessed it, our focus has an odd way of getting us more of what we focus on.

May your 2017 be definite, compelling, and grand.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Practice

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Ever wonder what it will take for our ship to come in, for us to be finally more calm, for things to start working right, or for our work and our relationships to click? It won’t be some insight. Nor will it be something that someone else does for us. It is something only we can do: practice a new focus and attitude.

Our focus and attitude have a dramatic effect on results. Up to now, we practiced a focus and attitude that we thought would get results. That practice helped us build what we might call our winning ways. These ways got us here. But when we notice some desire remaining out of reach, that’s our sign to change our focus and attitude.

We are so used to our winning ways that a change in focus and attitude can be hard. To make such a change, we practice. Steady, regular, small (at first) practice of a buzz-raising focus and attitude will do the trick.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: What’s the new focus and attitude? Since most of us are extremely well practiced at a focus on what could go wrong and a fine attitude of judgment, we’d probably do very well to focus on positive expectations and an attitude of joy.

PPS: Yup; lots of practice needed. And it pays off handsomely.

 

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Paint a Picture

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Worry (or, more mildly, concern) binds us. It keeps us overly focused on avoiding what could go wrong. This limits the time and energy we need to have things go right.

The antidote is simple: spend more time envisioning what we want.

Try this: take just four minutes this morning to paint a picture in your mind of some result you really want. Make it rich in compelling, exciting details. Whenever bad-feeling worries, concerns, or “yeah, buts” show up, set them aside and return to the picture you are painting. You will likely notice that 1) you feel better than you did four minutes earlier and 2) getting the results you want will become easier.

Feel good, good leader.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: We can use this to improve our thinking and effectiveness for a project, goal, week, or day.

 

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New Focus. New Results.

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When we notice something right, we can encourage more of it by focusing on it. Appreciating people’s good work, for example, sets the stage for them to do it again and again.

But what about when we notice something wrong? Most of us tend to focus, focus, focus on it. We perform a litany of What happened? How did it happen? This sucks. Who’s to blame? How do we fix it? I hate this. When might it happen again? Why do these things always happen? What needs to be done?

What if we had a different habit?

What if, as soon as we notice something wrong, we make a choice of what we want instead? Then, rather than going through the litany, what if we focused on what we want, how great it will be when it shows up, and on curiously wondering how it might?

New focus, new results.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Clear

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Get clear on the what and the why. The how, who, and when will become silly simple. Any focus on the who, how, and when without really knowing the what and the why explains most of the resistance, pain, or frustration we experience.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Yes. Resistance, pain, and frustration are strong indicators. See them and you’ll likely see a lack of (shared) clarity about the what and the why.

PPS: Strategy then tactics. Tactics isolated from strategy (esp. the “why”) is a recipe for disaster.

PPPS: Yes, we still have to follow through. But follow-through happens easily-happily-freely once we have the what and the why plus the who, how, and when.

 

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Which is Better: Avoid or Enjoy?

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There is a vast difference between seeking positive and avoiding negative. It is very difficult to generate positive by avoiding negative. We all want and deserve positive. Avoiding negative just can’t cut it anymore.

At work and in life, set aside what you wish to avoid and tell me what you want to enjoy.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Try this shift as often as you notice you’re focused on the negative. Hint: negative feel bad.

PPS: What is positive and negative can shift. Use your feelings to discern.

 

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Focusing on What’s Wrong?

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Focusing on what’s wrong feels bad. And it is helpful as long as we continue on to what we want instead and what’s right already. Otherwise, we will be wallowing while thinking, perhaps that we’re solving problems.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: One way to tell if we’re wallowing is that we continue to feel bad. Another way is that we keep seeing less-than-desired results.

 

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Cast A Narrow Net

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We may think that casting a wide net is best. That is, we look for jobs, clients, employees, markets, and other opportunities in as many places and industries as possible. “The more places I look, the better chance I have of finding something,” we say.

But wider nets paradoxically make our job harder. Wide nets turn up far more duds to sift through. Others find it difficult to help us because “any and all would do” doesn’t paint a picture. Nothing clicks to remind them of people or situations they know that could help us.

With a narrow net–a focus on one place or industry that resonates with our interests and values–we go deeper, become experts, and build strong networks of like minded people. We know what to say. People begin to expect to see us here. And others can better help us because our specific descriptions remind them of people and situations they know.

Stick to your niching.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Too Much Bad to Feel Good?

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How can I raise my buzz? How can I go about feeling good when circumstances are this bad?

–Everyone

Your results match how you feel.  But it can seem silly to expect that we can suddenly feel good when we are so occupied with what’s not going well at work or home.

But we each have the ability to generate better feeling thoughts, quickly. We can all feel what it will feel like when what we want happens. We need only ask ourselves, “What do I want?” or, “What’s one thought I can think that feels better than I now feel?” It may take 10 to 20 seconds for the better-feeling thought to appear. But it will appear, despite whatever negative circumstances had been holding our attention.

Feel good and things will open up.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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The Economics of Moving Others

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Focusing on what is wrong with another has the ugly effect, more often than not, of perpetuating whatever is wrong. (If you don’t believe this, think back to the last time you thought, “How many times do I have to tell them…?!” or “When will they get it through their skulls…?” or “When I’m made Master of the Universe, none of this will ever happen again!”)

Of course, focusing on what is right in another encourages more of the right.

So which would you like to see more of? The economics are odd here. We believe (or we act as if we believe) that we must clamp down on others’ shortcomings so that they stop damaging everything. Yet redirecting our energy budget toward increasing others’ strengths will be simpler and have much better payback.

And, as leaders (with or without title), we have an even better performing tool: if we express our certainty in another’s potential despite evidence of their incompetence or lack of evidence of their greatness, we give them permission to unleash amazing capabilities.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Though this approach may sound far-fetched, impractical, or beyond your abilities, I know you will figure it out and reap wonderful returns on your investment.

 

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