Drama

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Many of us fall prey to drama at work and in life. When I raise the alarm, call out the failings, or even just quietly complain, I hope to move people to my cause through commiseration (literally, being miserable with me). I may do this angrily, dryly, boisterously, or even warmly. I don’t even know […]

Beacon

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Focusing on what’s wrong is such an easy trap to fall into, good leader. Most people focus too much on the negative. That’s why we need to be beacon-like, holding up the light of what’s going right and what’s coming that’s even better.   In your corner, Mike   Today’s photo credit: John6536 Peggy’s Cove-9m […]

If We Focus On What’s Wrong…

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…we will only succeed in perpetuating it (or something like it). In other words, we will never solve a problem by complaining about it, wishing or waiting for it to change, or arguing for the power of any obstacles to prevent its solution. Focus on what’s right, good leader.   In your corner, Mike PS: […]

Definite, Compelling, and Grand

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If we focus on something we don’t like (especially if we go on about what’s wrong with it and why we don’t like it) then try to fix it, we’ll struggle mightily because our focus has an odd way of preserving things. (Think about the war on drugs or trying to get teammates finally do […]

Practice

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Ever wonder what it will take for our ship to come in, for us to be finally more calm, for things to start working right, or for our work and our relationships to click? It won’t be some insight. Nor will it be something that someone else does for us. It is something only we […]

Paint a Picture

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Worry (or, more mildly, concern) binds us. It keeps us overly focused on avoiding what could go wrong. This limits the time and energy we need to have things go right. The antidote is simple: spend more time envisioning what we want. Try this: take just four minutes this morning to paint a picture in your mind […]

New Focus. New Results.

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When we notice something right, we can encourage more of it by focusing on it. Appreciating people’s good work, for example, sets the stage for them to do it again and again. But what about when we notice something wrong? Most of us tend to focus, focus, focus on it. We perform a litany of What […]

Clear

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Get clear on the what and the why. The how, who, and when will become silly simple. Any focus on the who, how, and when without really knowing the what and the why explains most of the resistance, pain, or frustration we experience.   In your corner, Mike PS: Yes. Resistance, pain, and frustration are […]

Which is Better: Avoid or Enjoy?

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There is a vast difference between seeking positive and avoiding negative. It is very difficult to generate positive by avoiding negative. We all want and deserve positive. Avoiding negative just can’t cut it anymore. At work and in life, set aside what you wish to avoid and tell me what you want to enjoy.   […]