Between the Ears

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What is the gist of the stories we tell ourselves, 24/7? Are they like these…?

“That’s just the way it is.” “I/you/they/we/those things suck.” “It’s their/my fault.” “Life is hard.” “It’s just business.”

Or like these…?

“This is good.” “I appreciate me/you/them/us/those things.” “I know things will work out well; they always do.” “Life is good.” “This is exciting.” “More of this, please.”

Why does it matter? Because the story running between our ears dictates the results we will see with our eyes.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Of course, we can tell the gist of the stories by the results. And by how, generally, we feel.

Your Most Important Work

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The signs pointing the way to happiness (and success) at work and in life are right here, in plain sight. So why do we all seem to struggle?

Though we all have seen these signs time and again (e.g. “do what you love,” “go for win-win,” or “set a compelling purpose”), we can only understand and apply them when we are feeling good, buzzing high. This is true for us as individuals and in our companies. It turns out, then, that our most important work is to raise our buzz and help others do the same.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Happiness Is…

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Despite what we may sometimes wish, happiness does not come from wiping out our problems.

We can’t wipe them out. Like ocean waves, life is full of problems and solutions that never stop coming. We become unhappy when we see ourselves battered by these waves and needing to struggle for solutions.

But we can change our perspective. We become happy when we see ourselves surfing atop the waves, relishing them, being quietly powerful, and watching the problems getting solved.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: From atop the waves, problems become much less big and important. Often they will sort themselves out with relatively little effort from us. Good reasons to be atop the waves, yes? How to get there? By raising our buzz, of course.

 

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When to Start, Leap, Go

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With a sense of what we want, why we want it, and an excited expectation of it unfolding in front of us, we can launch anything, right now.

With a sense of doubt, it’s best to raise our buzz until we’ve reached that excited expectation.

The worst possible time to start is when we have doubts that we mask with false optimism. «Shudder»

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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The Flow is Delightful

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By doing the hard work of feeling good–despite any situation and before getting into any action–we are putting ourselves into that flow we all have glimpsed and have long sought. In this flow, we replace pushing or worrying with wonder, as in, “I know it’s going to work out. I wonder how it will?”

Exciting? Yes, indeed.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: “Is all this really possible? Can’t we talk about something more business-like? Why do you keep going on about feeling good?” Um…yes, I am, and mainly because it’s profitable.

 

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No Rules Say We Have To Start There

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Most of us know the leverage of feeling good before getting into action. Feeling good makes everything flow so much better. But it is often difficult or impossible to feel good about a topic that is important to us. For example, most of us will find it hard to feel good about an upcoming encounter with a challenging colleague. Try as we might, it’s just too tough some days to find good-feeling thoughts about this. Luckily, we don’t have to.

There are no rules that say we must feel good about the topic-at-hand. Well, not immediately, at least. Intead of trying to feel good about our colleague and the upcoming conversation, we can achieve a great buzz level by starting with good-feeling thoughts about anything else. Puppies. Strawberries. The freshness of the air outside. Anything.

Once we reach a good-feeling place, we can return our attention to the topic-at-hand and much more easily find and benefit from good-feeling thoughts about it.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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So, You Say You Want Better Results

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Okay. Maybe we are convinced that jumping into action to get desired results is problematic. Perhaps there is something useful in raising our buzz–that is, to feeling good–then acting as inspired to generate better results. But why does raising our buzz seem so difficult?

Mostly, it’s because we are fighting age-old, inherited habits. We are so used to (1) reacting to outside influences and (2) thinking that we have to figure things out and get into action to handle those outside influences. Any attempt we make to raise our buzz (that is, feeling good despite the outside influences) presses against those two habits. It is hard to do. But here’s the thing: saying it’s hard makes it harder. (See?)

So we need a way to gently, lightly move ourselves away from reacting to outside influences and toward an inner-generated, high-buzz perspective.

What works is starting with small, daily practice. Being playful about it also helps. It is especially useful to do this practice as we are going to bed and as we wake up. It takes just a few minutes each time. Within a few days, we will notice a difference. And inside a month, whoa!

Keep going.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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It’s Very Hard Work

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We talk about approaching our piles of tasks with ease. We note how jumping into action when feeling tense, angry, or otherwise bad about stuff is counterproductive. And we at least suspect that taking the time to first feel good then act is a smart way to go.

Yet many people complain that we advocate being lazy, not getting stuff done, or ignoring what’s important. They insist that success comes primarily from hard work.

And there, they are right.

It takes lots of hard work–focus, concentration, discernment, and organization–to replace our habit of jumping into action with a habit of doing whatever it takes to first feel good, then act as inspired. When we do, though, wow!

Gotta do the right hard work.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

Today’s photo credit: Amanda Slater from Coventry, England (Suffolk Horses Ploughing) [CC BY-SA 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons