We Get What We Expect

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Maybe this sounds silly, trite, or just plain wrong. Yet we see daily reminders of how reality generally matches what we expect. A quick look back at our thoughts and beliefs about a subject shows that they match current results.

If we agree that we get what we expect, why don’t we simply choose to expect more things to work out, more good results, more fun and profit?

Because it hasn’t always worked out. We have told ourselves things like, “I expect to get that promotion, make that sale, or get that grade.” And we have been disappointed.

But if we look closely, we’ll see what’s really going on. Though we had said we expected something positive, we were really focused on something opposite. Though, for example, we might be saying, ” I am going to land that job,” we often believe deep down that we won’t. We can’t expect to paste over our negative thinking and get what we want. We can tell we are pasting over because it feels bad.

The trick, then, is to find any way to raise our buzz and feel good about our expectations.

Then, yes, we can one again start expecting all sorts of good things to happen

 

In your corner,

Mike

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Stubbornly Undone

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For anything that remains stubbornly undone, the very last place at need to look for answers is between our ears.

Our judgments and beliefs hold both wanted and unwanted situations in place with tenacity. So it makes all kind of sense to replace any attention to unwanted (including complaints, judgments, etc.) with high-buzz attention on what we do want.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Stories

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Our success mostly rests on the stories we tell ourselves about us, them, this thing, or that situation.

Unwanted results? Wanted results? What story were you (often quietly, sometimes unknowingly) telling?

Pick the best feeling stories and watch the results shift to match.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Between the Ears

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What is the gist of the stories we tell ourselves, 24/7? Are they like these…?

“That’s just the way it is.” “I/you/they/we/those things suck.” “It’s their/my fault.” “Life is hard.” “It’s just business.”

Or like these…?

“This is good.” “I appreciate me/you/them/us/those things.” “I know things will work out well; they always do.” “Life is good.” “This is exciting.” “More of this, please.”

Why does it matter? Because the story running between our ears dictates the results we will see with our eyes.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: Of course, we can tell the gist of the stories by the results. And by how, generally, we feel.

Your Most Important Work

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The signs pointing the way to happiness (and success) at work and in life are right here, in plain sight. So why do we all seem to struggle?

Though we all have seen these signs time and again (e.g. “do what you love,” “go for win-win,” or “set a compelling purpose”), we can only understand and apply them when we are feeling good, buzzing high. This is true for us as individuals and in our companies. It turns out, then, that our most important work is to raise our buzz and help others do the same.

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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Happiness Is…

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Despite what we may sometimes wish, happiness does not come from wiping out our problems.

We can’t wipe them out. Like ocean waves, life is full of problems and solutions that never stop coming. We become unhappy when we see ourselves battered by these waves and needing to struggle for solutions.

But we can change our perspective. We become happy when we see ourselves surfing atop the waves, relishing them, being quietly powerful, and watching the problems getting solved.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: From atop the waves, problems become much less big and important. Often they will sort themselves out with relatively little effort from us. Good reasons to be atop the waves, yes? How to get there? By raising our buzz, of course.

 

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When to Start, Leap, Go

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With a sense of what we want, why we want it, and an excited expectation of it unfolding in front of us, we can launch anything, right now.

With a sense of doubt, it’s best to raise our buzz until we’ve reached that excited expectation.

The worst possible time to start is when we have doubts that we mask with false optimism. «Shudder»

 

In your corner,

Mike

 

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The Flow is Delightful

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By doing the hard work of feeling good–despite any situation and before getting into any action–we are putting ourselves into that flow we all have glimpsed and have long sought. In this flow, we replace pushing or worrying with wonder, as in, “I know it’s going to work out. I wonder how it will?”

Exciting? Yes, indeed.

 

In your corner,

Mike

PS: “Is all this really possible? Can’t we talk about something more business-like? Why do you keep going on about feeling good?” Um…yes, I am, and mainly because it’s profitable.

 

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